Relations on the side, which sometimes attract men so much, are only a small part of everything that happens in his life. Therefore, so often in the choice of "sick wife or a healthy mistress" wins exactly the wife.
The official couple is stronger than the unofficial - this paradox surprised lovers at all times. But from this legitimate wives are not easier ...
Dangerous periods
As many women notice, men change periods. Unlike us, women, husbands can easily cope "on two fronts." In the end, they, unlike us, do not wash for two men, and sexual needs, as a rule, are enough for both women.
They say that men change only by body, and women by soul, and from this male treason is considered less insidious. Dangerous delusion! Men are polygamous, which means they can sincerely love both women. And here it is important to understand that the new love, firstly, not forever, and secondly, does not mean that the man has stopped loving. Maybe he is able to leave his wife, if she falls ill for a long time and seriously. But if the feelings were sincere, this "bastard and bastard" can receive solace from his mistress and at the same time support his legal wife.
Usually, men's hobbies appear in periods. This is either a recession, a threat of depression and a departure from reality, or vice versa - a way to flaunt, show off before an unknown woman. The wife knows how he is given success and how much effort has to be made to achieve it. A "third-party observer", which becomes a mistress - an excellent opportunity to stick out the chest wheel and pokakarekat the whole chicken coop.
- First-born
Definitely the most dangerous and the first stage, when a man is torn between a "sick" wife or a healthy mistress, are pregnancy and childbirth. The first tremors in the abdomen, the wife becomes an indifferent amoeba ... First understanding that she will not go anywhere, and then-months of sleepless nights and life. Bytovuha sticks, settles on all sides. I would like to come home and relax - so no, there screams a little monster, to which the wife gives all her attention and all the strength ...
But no matter how much a man dreams, tasted peace and comfort, passion and exotic impressions in the "left" relationship, he still pulls him home, to the heir ...
- We know each other by heart
The next difficult period, when a man can not decide who to choose - a sick wife or a healthy mistress, is the average age. The houses are all one and the same, and there, "in the wild" - She. Healthy, attractive, always happy to see him, and always languishing in sexual desire (as it seems to him).
What keeps the men around their sick wives, or a healthy mistress - that's not all he would want? Maybe washed socks or borscht, children, heirs or "public opinion"? Hardly. Habit? So habits are quite easy to change.
Ask a man - but better not your husband. Talk to random fellow travelers or old friends. They will certainly be able to pick up the right metaphors and explain how it turns out - goes "to the left", returns like a boomerang, always home.
Relationships tested for strength
If you are completely honest with yourself, in fact, even the most sick wife is better than a healthy lover. These relationships have already been tested by time. She is grateful. She is the mother of his children. Together they experienced adversity and difficult times. And will the "other" woman stand, even ardently and passionately loved, the same? Will not betray him at the most crucial moment?
And even if the pair reigns excessive harmony - they, they say, read each other as an open book - this can be the reason for going to the left. But to continue the relationship the man will be with the one who trusted one hundred percent. And who is it, but not his wife? For the sake of her, he ventured to the most terrible act - put a stamp in his passport, legalized the relationship.
Looking for each other forever
In any pair, even if he and she are disgusted with each other "before the blue in the eyes," people satisfy their emotional needs. To a mistress you can come tipsy or vice versa, nadraennym to shine. With it you need to be a little bit not yourself all the time - and it's tiresome.
Yes, a sick wife who sometimes needs to be cared for, who heard the word sex only in her youth, and avoids the use of manicure cabinets as fire (everything is so expensive there!) Is the prose of life. I want poetry, but you will not eat it.
So it turns out that they choose the place from which it is easier to act, where you can really relax. Walking at home in stretched exercises, and at the weekend to sip a beer in front of the TV. In this there is something so important that the mistress sooner or later remains "overboard".