To be special and different from others is an opportunity or a punishment? Be in the circle of friends and girlfriends, communicate, work ...
Wherever we somehow encounter socium, we should like to "wear a mask", at least until some time. We find in this some kind of joy, a scene, art. But in fact to be especial it is essentially important for each woman ...
Always a fine mood, a "Hollywood" smile, an excellent figure and a settled rhythm of life - all this seems more like a description of the heroine of the film than a real woman. We have many problems and sufferings, dreams that will not come true, and surprises. The fate of fate we are forced to meet with a smile, and even with the closest friends we share our doubts very dosed.
So it turns out that we very rarely remain alone with ourselves, with us, almost no friends, not even relatives. After all, to be special, which is fundamentally important for every woman, it's hard - you need to comply.
It is clear that in some periods of life it is much easier to slightly "put out the halo," remove the excess entourage and join a flock. Especially when there comes a time of change and doubt, hesitation and uncertainty. "Together we are more cheerful," we think. "Everybody can not be wrong," we say to ourselves, like a memorized cheat sheet. And we go amicably, almost in the leg. First in school, trying to keep up with fashion trends - we meet and kiss, we put on pantyhose, which my mother hysterically calls suitable only for ladies of the corresponding ancient profession ...
We are so special, but they are the same ...
Then the girlfriends are going to college, and you too. Because so it is necessary. Yes, and parents say: "Do it, daughter!" And here you spend five years, studying an indistinct profession and getting a cherished education. And coming out of the walls of the institute, with horror realize that now this is your profession for life! And in fact to be especial it is essentially important for each woman - but we go on distribution on completely not prestigious place of work or we search for a place of the secretary typical for the woman. What can we say about the peculiarity when the soul asks, howls, begs - and we follow the crowd?
"But how," you will answer, "it's not always possible to earn what you like very much!" Yes, few people earn knitting or growing petunias. But even they are an example of how it is fundamentally important for every woman to be special! If those few have coped - and you do not like this learned, worn-out image, this role of the second plan in return for the "prima" that you could be!
A woman, despite her vast rights and, even more so, the responsibilities assumed, continues to exist in the patriarchal system. In a system where it is not necessary to be special, where it is fundamentally important to be "like everyone else," every woman must compete with others. In time to study, marry "those guys" (who like friends or parents), in time to give birth to children, even if from one of their screams you are twisted as from a lemon.
Not everyone is born Mozart, not everyone can be Curie-Warehouse or George Sandy. But you can find your own uniqueness, find the way of life that you like. After all, to follow your own path contrary to-no, not destiny, but only public opinion - by the strength of every woman, and to be especial in principle to preserve one's mental health.
Ode to own happiness
Happiness - not a house and not a husband, not a life or children. Happiness is immaterial. Happiness is a sensation that periodically visits us. And the great joy is to be able to feel it. Sometimes, even in impenetrable poverty, sadness, depression and depression, the very ray of happiness that we often miss is peeking out! So why, in our difficult time, most arrange themselves "depressions"?
The phenomenon of such social "success" is that it is followed by disappointments and neuroses, suffering is secretly, and the best girl suddenly becomes a pillow. To hear yourself, your inner voice is extremely important! Do not allow yourself to become "like everyone else," because it is of fundamental importance for every woman. The society always imposes its standards - but it is important to remember that they only provide survival.
Do you want more?
If you want to live something more than just "live" (and this is what the teenage maximalists dream about), if you want not just a relationship - but a small daily miracle - there is always the opportunity. All means and all recipes are ready to provide life itself - it's only worth stopping for a minute, stop running mad. Get off the pedestal, remove the mask, move aside. There, where the light of the soffits is not so bright, you can afford to think about yourself a little bit.
To play a role, to do it skillfully is good. Presenting yourself to the real world is just dangerous - otherwise it will be a sleepy unkempt monster with peeling varnish on its nails. But sometimes you have to allow yourself to be real, special, not to follow the same path as everyone else. Go your own way. And when the direction is all clear, you can choose from favorite suitcases that outfit that we face. A strict and independent "boss" or a gentle "scarlet flower", about which the beloved man cares - to choose only you.
Moms advise, grandmothers advise, colleagues and men, bosses and apothecaries - they all have an opinion on our account. But the truth about what we would like, how would live in joy - only we know, special and unique. And it is in this we are similar - in its uniqueness.
And then relationships with men are being established, in the soul - spring, the house - a full cup. After all, if you know what you want from the world - the world is ready to give us this generous hand.