At the same time, the apartment has high-quality repairs, modern appliances, stylish toys. And it's completely unclear how, with such a lot of free time, the father of the family manages to earn all this. In reality, many mothers listen to such a pretty boring song from day to day: Hello, dear! Today I'm late. The work is ... No, seriously! "Well, again," you sigh. It's insulting to bathe one baby. It's a shame to warm up in the microwave dinner, which was so anxious to serve freshly prepared. What to do if the husband is at work all the time, what would that mean?
I would be glad to serve
The more busy a person your husband is, the more he depends on the realities of the modern market. And the reality is that in order for the company to be of any use to its business, so that it does not go broke and continues to provide jobs, it has to keep the necessary minimum of employees performing the maximum of duties. This means that almost every worker has to work "for himself and for that guy." And even for a few guys. "However, I have to - the word is inappropriate." Everyone has a choice. "There is an alternative. Even if it's as icky as leaving tomorrow and stay on the street without a livelihood, but it's unlikely that she will arrange your husband and you. "A sad paradox: an irregular worker has become almost the norm." The higher a person ascends the career ladder, the more likely he will have to sit up late at work. Elika commander Napoleon said of himself that he was "just the first soldier of the empire." What can I say about a modest sales manager? The future of the company depends on his activity, and he himself, so he does not have to rest on his laurels, but it is necessary to work from morning till night.
What can I advise young mothers whose husbands make a career?
• Do not harass your spouse with undeserved reproaches. Most likely, he himself would be glad to give the work less time and effort. But in another way it is impossible. Accept this as a reality.
• However, sometimes the slippage of a wife's discontent can serve as an incentive for change for the better. Of course, your husband will not get up and leave the board of directors after your angry SMS about a cold dinner. But where it depends on him, he will try not to stay too long.
• Remember that "happiness is when you go with joy to work in the morning, and in the evening you happily return home." And the second half of this happiness entirely depends on you. Meet your husband with news about the achievements of children, a tasty dinner and passionate kisses.
• Take time to talk. Be aware of her husband's official affairs, and keep him informed about domestic matters.
A real master of everything
A little different case - when the father of the family own business. On the one hand, he is his own master. On the other hand, this is a 24-hour headache and the most unpredictable work schedule. If sometimes he comes early to pick up his son or daughter from the kindergarten, but then after a few weeks he will disappear at work even on weekends. Girlfriend envy: husband - a businessman. And trips to the sea, and a new car, and a paid pediatrician - all these are real results of hard Dad's work. But you hardly see your dad. You do not remember the last time you visited your family. All invitations are repeatedly postponed because of the employment of your husband. Yes there are guests, when you are so sorely lacking himself! And the kid sees the daddy only on a splash of your mobile phone ... Is it possible to somehow change this situation for the better?
• Perhaps you would agree to live for less money, if only my husband would visit home more often. However, business can not always be conducted within limited limits, without developing or increasing it. Competitors come and are about to snatch your share of the market. In this case, the best solution is to make the spouse's business family-friendly. So you will have more points of contact. Be an assistant and a war friend to your husband.
• At the same time, talk to your husband if he really needs new directions, which he is now actively engaged in. Maybe, something can be safely abandoned. Convince your husband that you are ready to do without a housekeeper and without a new fur coat, to delay with the construction of a summer house or the purchase of a new car (if it is really so). A spouse must be absolutely sure that you and your children love him, regardless of the number of bills and credit cards in his wallet.
Almost a hobby
And what about the one whose husband is lost at work without any benefit to the family? To begin with, think what motivates him? Perhaps this is a vocation. Unfortunately, people of many very necessary and useful professions sometimes earn little. Be proud of him. In addition, scientists from the University of Pennsylvania recently refuted the myth that workaholics are bad lovers. Their energy hits the edge! If you want to change the material situation in the family, your efforts will be required.
• Find a husband in his specialty.
• Look for decent work for yourself. If not right now, then for the future.
• Making a complaint to her husband about his low earnings, take a critical look at yourself. Nowadays there are a lot of successful women, but do you treat them?