Beloved, who is captured by the Internet

Undoubtedly, this miracle of progress has a lot of positive sides, but, alas, it is not always beneficial to family relations. Your beloved, who is captured by the Internet, devotes all his time to the same Internet and computer games. Before you is a very difficult question, how to return a loved one, who is captivated by the Internet, to a "real" life?

Whenever you go to visit your brother, you can be sure that you will see the following. The door is always (!) Opened by his wife. The fact that the brother of the house is shown only by his muffled "Hello" from the depths of the apartment. Everything is clear, he is sitting at the computer again. Further more. Sit down at the table, called him. "Now" - your brother promises and ... enthusiastically plays further. "We are waiting for you". "I am on my way". Such an exchange of cues can continue indefinitely, if you do not go into the room and temporarily do not get out of the Internet. "Imagine, after work, he hastily intercepts something, and immediately sits wandering around the sites and playing with friends in different games on the Net. And every time until late at night. Honestly, it starts to annoy me very much. To pull a loved one who is in captivity on the Internet, I will take drastic measures, "- complains his wife. Waiting until she accepts these mysterious "measures", you did not, decided to help her and the other women whose husbands are prisoners in the Internet. That's what family psychologists advise in this case.


Where do the legs grow? To solve the problem, first you need to learn about it as much as possible. So, what are our favorite ones doing while sitting in front of their electronic friend? Most of them play different computer shooters, strategies and races. Many also communicate in various forums and social networks. And also download movies, books and music, and some people also go to sites, let's say, of an erotic nature. Why are they doing this? It would seem that the answer is obvious: to relax, get pleasure from communication, from new impressions, learn something interesting. But when it comes to many hours of sitting at the computer to the detriment of all other interests, family relationships, health, psychologists say that the reason is somewhat shifted: it is a kind of escape from reality, in which your loved one does not like something. What exactly? Yes, anything: small problems at work, some family turmoil, life, the inability to have what you want, the lack of vivid impressions, just spleen. And it seems to him that leaving all these stimuli "overboard" is very simple: you just need to start the car, enter the Internet, and here's on the monitor a personal interesting cozy world where all the inhabitants are smart and attractive, where everything turns out, and your favorite is the lord The ruler of a virtual country, the ruler of destinies. Well, how can I resist?


Do not use force! On such behavior partner ladies react differently: they pretend that their husband's behavior does not excite, offend, deny intimacy. Quite a few women follow the path of least resistance and use the so-called power method: they delete games and settings, put passwords on the computer, get batteries from the mouse, for the good purpose of weaning the loved one from the "electronic mistress", they can even turn off the apartment. And often all these manipulations are accompanied by tears, threats, demands "either I, or the computer." According to psychologists, this approach is nothing but gaining conflicts with the beloved, will not bring. Because your beloved is not a child - and direct pressure, like any man, can not stand. And if you act like a strict parent with an unintentional child, you will not get anything except a protest (hidden or explicit). Even (and especially!) If he behaves well, just like a child unreasonable.


Salvation of a loved one . There are many more subtle and effective ways to solve this problem without conflicts with the partner. Give your beloved a new, vivid impression. After all, it is them, even a certain share of extreme, most likely not enough for the player. Try to diversify your family life. Buy tickets to the theater, cinema, football, finally. Invite guests to dinner, which your beloved one will be happy to see. You can combine business with pleasure and, together with your husband, enroll in a fitness club or just run around in the morning. If you want extreme, too, there are many different options from skydiving to kayak alloys. By the way, about the impressions. Many psychologists tend to think that computer games and visiting sites for adults are just an alternative to good sex. Perhaps it is worth offering your loved one to try something new in bed? And do not be shy of frank conversations and experiments!


Take care of yourself . Your beloved is captured by the Internet, but your thoughts on what he could do at that time? Help around the house. To mess with the child, to communicate with you, to walk with a dog (the list can be continued). Stop thinking about him - he's an adult. Stop wasting your energy on the experience! Give time and attention to yourself. You do have girlfriends, hobbies, books, after all. Remember the coexistence of theaters and fitness centers. Many women argue: when they "turned off" over-control and shifted the focus of attention to themselves, the beloved began to spend less time on the Internet. Become a real woman, stop even mentally pushing, and the man next to you, too, be transformed. Play with him. Choose a game for yourself, sign up for forums on interests. What if you like it? So you will kill two birds with one stone: first, you will understand better your beloved, and secondly, you will enjoy. And, you see, you will also become a prisoner of the Internet. By the way, this is exactly the third "hare". If the loved one does not improve, the ability to use the Internet will become a kind of heavy artillery. For example, the beloved comes from work, but the house is not cleaned, there is nothing to eat. On all his questions the answer is one: "Loved, such an interesting game, I can not tear myself away! Prepare the supper yourself, okay? "


The spirit of contradiction . He is not alien to any representative of the stronger sex. Well, they do not want to obey the direct commands, and that's it. So play it. For example, if you previously actively objected to his virtual hobbies, thereby making the forbidden fruit even sweeter, try changing tactics. Begin to encourage him!