As my employee once said to one of the employees: "I'm not a woman at work, I'm an employee at work". The same can be said about the woman-leader. But if, having stepped through the threshold of her office, she did not take off the "veil of the head" and did not remember that she was still a woman, then the problem is born of itself.
Woman and priorities
For some women, promotion through the career ladder is almost an obsession. They are so immersed in their work that the "idea X" lives with them even in a dream. But, it's not a secret for anyone that any woman needs love, mutual understanding with the opposite sex, family comfort, and, in the end, sex. A woman careerist begins to look enviously at other women, who in their personal lives are all five with a plus. This is how "evil-bosses" are born, whose personal life has not developed, and they try to throw all their anger and dissatisfaction into their subordinates, young girls, who on their personal front are all very well.
Sometimes, at times, a woman dips into the work with a head for the simple reason that in her life there was a love failure. When a man throws a woman, she either gets unstuck, or seeks a worthy replacement, or tries to prove, first of all, to him that he has lost a worthy party. Thus, she, the woman, directs all its forces to achieve career heights and, as a rule, achieves much. Immediately remember the film "Moscow does not believe in tears" - a typical example of an abandoned, but self-sufficient woman.
Head to work
If a woman achieves everything herself, then, at times, it is necessary to work so much, that by definition of time for personal life simply is not enough. And then, over time, a banal story arises: "The Institute has finished, made a career, bought a house, even married. Oh! I forgot to have a baby! "
I really liked the opinion of the woman-boss, with whom I somehow had a chance to talk. She, first of all, realized herself as a wife, as a mother, and only afterwards, after thirty, began to build her career and, to great joy, she managed everything. "In the first place, the family, she makes a woman a woman, and then self-realization as a person, career, etc. If a woman does not make a career - it's half bad, if a woman does not give birth to a child, then she will never be a woman for 100%, "I think, the golden words I heard.
Sometimes the work absorbs so much time that there is absolutely no time for the family of this time. It turns out that children grow on their own, because parents "make a career." Whatever it was, it is necessary to give due work, but do not forget about the children, after all, about the husband. If your work takes your whole life, then it is worth considering whether it is worth it, whether it is worth your life ...
At work - the leader at home - soft, gentle and obedient
A woman-boss very often gets so involved in her role that this role of the boss begins to be realized at home. But men love gentle, kind and affectionate. Excessive aggression and leadership can negatively reflect on personal relationships. Of course, if your husband is unable to make his own decisions, then maybe you just have to make decisions on your own, but at the same time, do not put down a man in a man, believe me, it's in your own interest.
First - career, then - family or vice versa?
So, career is important for you, but you still do not stop to think about whether a female leader can be happy in her personal life. First, set priorities, evaluate adequately, which is more important for you: home and family or your family and your home is work. When you answer this rather simple question, you will understand how to prioritize.
Your priorities are your life goals. And if your life goal is enjoying family life, and your work requires a lot of sacrifices to reach career heights, then I think the family is not worth those sacrifices. At the same time, if you are a workaholic and your mission is to reach career heights, then boldly go to the intended goal, but do not complain about the lack of privacy.
There is an exit
But there is also a golden mean. We do not forget that we all work, sometimes very long and painstakingly, but at the same time, we manage to be a good mother and wife. Often the work of a female leader is an ordinary working day for an ordinary woman, so why should you then give up the "reins of government" in your favor.
Perhaps you are the head of the family business, you are the owner of your time, so you can organize it as it will suit you and your family. Is not it a perfect combination?
From all of the above, you can draw a simple conclusion: everything is in your hands. the happiness of a woman leader directly depends on her, and if she wants to be happy, then she will be so, because who, how not herself, should know how to achieve and achieve the target. Achieving family happiness, as well as achieving career heights, are life goals that will be achieved by those who really want it.