The younger generation will never open all their secrets to the mysteries, no matter how hard you try to find out about them. But we managed to frankly talk with many students and students and draw their conclusions.
According to most of the children, alcoholic beverages are consumed mostly in various "parties", for example, in clubs or in cafes, in bars, at the graduation ball and even at home when there are no parents.
Young people believe that drinking in companies shows their growing up, although in fact it is nothing less than inexperience and naivety. Others drink "for courage". According to one guy: "I'm very shy, so I'm afraid to go to the girl. But when I drink "for courage", it will be much easier. " In this case, excessive shyness is a complex since childhood, and it is not the boy who is to blame but the parents who have lost something in their education or did not keep track of what their children have with their classmates at school. It is impossible to keep track of everything: the child has his own life, and most of the time he spends in an educational institution or with friends who can also exert their negative influence. Here is an example.
Olya, 16 years old: "I began to drink when friends in the company began to make fun of provocative words:" What, weakly? "So I decided to prove their independence and independence from their parents, although alcoholic drinks do not seem tasty, they burn the throat and there is an unpleasant aftertaste of the vortex, and in the morning the head is dizzy, it strongly stirs up and smells bad all over the apartment with a rehearer. "
First of all, the girl succumbed to manipulation of her friends, and then she just showed her weakness. Perhaps now friends will take note of the fact that Olya can be "used" because of the weakness of her character.
In other cases, the cause of adolescent alcoholism is something other than advertising in malicious youth magazines, as well as the yellow press, television, the Internet. Any advertising manager knows that advertising of all products should create an atmosphere of excellence, inspire that everything is good, show colors, attract packaging and create a world of illusions, although life is much more complicated. Their main goal is money, profit. None of them are thinking about our health, creating alcohol.
A more naive incident occurred with a 15-year-old girl, who, after watching the youth comedies, decided that alcohol is beautiful. "The heroine so beautifully held the bottle, that I wanted to imitate her, to become like her." Here is the result. The girl was influenced by a simple youth comedy.
The boy Andrei told us 17 years that he was drinking "for the mood". "This" mood "helps" roll up "to a girl in the middle or at a party, helps to relax, forget about problems, withdraw into themselves. Yes, and passing the exams, we celebrated the cafe, where they took a bottle of beer. How can alcohol be without alcohol? "
In each family, someone sooner or later leaves our world. In order to remember the man and pray to God for the forgiveness of his sins, wreaths are arranged, which in many families end with "drinking." Nastya, 16 years old: "I first tried vodka at the age of 12 at a funeral feast, when everyone was drunk. I like it. Since then, I sometimes drink, but my parents do not know about it. "
The other case was simple. Alina, 20 years old: "I started drinking at 16. Now I'm an adult and no one gives me a decree." Age is not an indicator of adulthood. And in 25 years a person can think at the level of a child. And be at least 30 years old, it is hard for a person, parents, to look at the fact that their child has gone "not tempemet."
Except when parents do not give due time to their growing child and lose something in the process of his upbringing, there are other cases when the father and mother take care of their children too much. A child must feel a bit of freedom. And what consequences can be incurred for the impending freedom to make their decisions, we'll look at an example. Oksana, a 19-year-old girl says: "It seemed that it was hard even to breathe, so they strongly guarded me and deprived me of everything a growing schooler needed. I even spoiled the graduation party. At a time when all the guys went to the country for a walk-in, I sat at home and wiped away tears from the fact that I missed the only chance to say goodbye to the school like all normal children. But then I decided to prove to the parents that I myself can make decisions. I began to drink. And it helped me get away with the problems. And the parents could not do anything to me. I drank it for evil. "
Mother and father just did not give up. There were scandals, even reached the belt. The girl was coded and given expensive imported medications from alcohol addiction. Nothing helped: the "Black Streak" ended only when the parents called the girl into a private conversation, which took place in a calm spiritual situation.
The main thing is understanding from parents. With this agreed all the interviewed adolescents. Sometimes it is not necessary to "water" your children with various imported medicines, but it is very important to call him to a frank conversation and listen to him, what worries him, what pushes him to it. And it's worth remembering that you can not show aggression, no matter how much you blame him, and how much you would not be angry with him, because it only frightens the stronger the child goes deeper into himself, creating depression and complexes.