In addition to the material aspects, the initial height of feelings and common interests, the ability of the spouses to preserve everything they have created together for a long time plays an important role. And a very important aspect for the preservation of feelings are compliments and signs of attention to the wife, from her beloved husband.
Small attention signs.
There are many ways that a man can take advantage of, in order to get attention and a decent attitude for a woman. Thus it is possible not to make the big contributions both physical, and material. In such a case, the main thing is to correctly prioritize, and reorient your interests and efforts in the right direction. As it turns out to be the most effective, there are those signs of attention that everyone knows. But because of their accessibility, men stop giving them as much importance as women do. So it turns out that sometimes a husband and an asterisk are ready to get out of heaven, and his wife wants some very insignificant trifles. So a situation arises when a man sincerely believes that such a trifle can not be compared with his actions, begins to believe that his efforts are not appreciated, and the woman complains at the same time that she is not understood and does not receive the necessary attention.
It also happens that the man at the beginning, makes compliments and signs of attention for his wife, quite often, and over time, switches to something more global and meaningful, considering such a trifle commonplace and boring. But in fact, the wife needed this kind of routine, but a constant, and not one great manifestation of feelings, after which a lull is formed for a long time.
To prevent this from happening, my husband, no matter how difficult it is for him, you need at least a minute, but look at the world through the eyes of a woman. The wife can help him in this. Speaking of your needs, you will make the first step towards mutual understanding and harmony.
There are basic principles of evaluation by which a woman is guided in life in determining the true values for her. And one of such principles is constant attention. Only then can the wife feel loved and important in the family. To do this, it is enough to say affectionate words every day, celebrate its successes, talk about those things for which you love it the most, and of course admit to love.
If we put such a notion in the framework of associative thinking, most women will be a kind of vessel, but with a very thin neck. You will not be able to fill such a vessel with large stones, but small grains of sand can easily slip in. And to fill this vessel you will need billions of such grains of sand. So a woman to fill her with warm feelings and make you feel your love, you need a billion little signs of attention, manifestation of care, and compliments.
The magic of complement.
Complement does not always mean flattery. In most cases, it is perceived as a sign of respect, or admiration. When a man says compliments to his wife, a small miracle happens. This is one of the few cases where a common word can deliver so much happiness, pleasure and make the eyes shine.
But, in order to receive the coveted woman, one should allow a man to make such attention signs, speak compliments and be able and properly perceive. The ability of a woman to receive attention is no less important than the ability of a man to exercise it. If the husband compliments his wife, but does not receive the desired response, the motivation to take such a step completely disappears. But if the token of attention is necessarily followed by embraces, a kiss, words of nobility, a response compliment, a confession or just a smile - the husband will necessarily want a repetition of this moment. A very effective way is praise for caring and showing signs of attention. Of course, you should not overplay, then your reaction will be more like sarcasm, and will not have the desired effect. Follow these little rules, and then your feelings will start to gain momentum again.
It happens and it is difficult.
A woman who wants to receive attention should remember that not all men are willing to risk and act, as they say in the blind. Let it be even a trifle. The fear of making mistakes makes them go to great loss of strength, but they are confident as a result. Do not be afraid to tell a man directly about your desire. If you want embraces - come up and ask directly that he would hug you. If you want a kiss - kiss. Over time, a man will not be embarrassed by such in his opinion, little things, because he will know for sure that they are important to you.
It also happens that a man begins to act, but it turns out all somehow very clumsily. Do not be angry or scold him. Meet with approval, at least the fact that he did something, and the result over time, necessarily improve. Also, such support will positively affect not only your personal life, but also the professional achievements of the spouse. As the great man says, there is always a wise woman. Feel free to take on this role, and you will certainly succeed.
Often also, attention to the wife will not suffice with the appearance of some problems. In such cases, the first to go are emotions that do not allow you to actually see the situation. And instead of finding a solution together, it turns out that the couple begin to blame each other. This behavior is also unacceptable. After all, understanding can also be attributed to the little things on which real feelings are based.
Hence we can conclude that the compliments and signs of attention that the husband shows to his wife, and vice versa - are an integral part of the secret of a happy life. Give each other such trifles as love, tenderness, affection, warmth, understanding and support. After all, making a loved one happy is so easy.