Most parents would like children to receive information about sex from them, and not from some incomprehensible sources or erotic magazines, and, especially, not from their peers. But adults have no idea how to start, how the child can explain how children are born, and what age is suitable for the child's sex education. Most of the parents themselves were brought up in complete isolation from this topic, any attempts to learn anything in this direction were stopped.
Some adults believe that by talking to their child about this topic, they will cause increased interest and curiosity about intimate issues. However, this is a wrong opinion. Often, a strong interest is caused by exactly what is hidden under the veil of secrecy. The forbidden fruit is always sweeter.
Those who think that a child of seven years old has no idea about sex is mistaken. He probably has, but not quite what he needs to know, and most importantly, that he has a misconception about what he knows.
It is necessary to overcome their prejudices about the "forbidden topic", and create a trustful environment with the child, openly talk about sexual topics. In this case, your child will confidently tell about what he learned from peers on the topic of sex.
The important point is that in time to disprove the misconceptions, and thus protect the child from possible mistakes and disappointments. And parents will save themselves from grief.
Leave your attempts to protect the baby he "unnecessary" information on the topic of sex. In any case, your efforts will not lead to the desired result. Scenes from the erotic film, which are now available on television at any time, pictures from newspapers and magazines (most likely, that in your house, too, such are available), specialized books, if not in your home, then a couple of similar ones will be found among neighbors, in which the child is the same year - all this is sure to catch your child's eyes.
The fact that you cover your child's eyes during the erotic scene in the film or make him leave the room, only strengthen his curiosity. And at any opportunity, when you are not at home, he will necessarily turn on the TV, watch the film or read articles in erotic publications. It is unlikely that the meaning of the child will be clear, but he will have an impression about it.
And in order for the child to have a correct perception of the topic of sex, he should give such knowledge, and guide his understanding in the right direction. And thus, you will avoid the appearance of increased interest in sexual matters in your child. In cases where a child hears something from peers, and you have not explained it to him yet, he must always ask you for help and a clue. This is possible provided that you have created a trusting relationship with the child.
The most suitable option is to explain to the child how the conception takes place, and how the children are born. When the child is still very small, then general information about the structure of the female and male sexual organs will be enough. As the child grows up, in any case, questions will appear, and then you can explain in more detail.
Call things by their proper names and do not be afraid of it. Creating a secret from this topic is a good reason to whisper with peers at the corners, and provokes a heightened interest in intimate relationships. It is better that the child learns from you information, then to the words of peers he will be reasonable and will be able to give a more adequate assessment.
Awareness of belonging to some kind of sex in children appears to two or three years. In this period, the children have an interest in their body, their genitals, and also it begins to interest the body and genitals of children of the opposite sex. They look with interest and attention and feel themselves and their peers.
Parents are frightened of such a "study". Parents believe that it is too early for a child to know such a thing, and then they gasp and gasp when they learn that the kids are asking each other to take off their panties, or take turns undressing and examining each other when they play "in the doctor."
At this stage, this is purely curiosity. The child still perceives the genitals as part of the body, which is not visible permanently.
This stage of development of the baby is called "sexual curiosity" and is considered absolutely normal. However, it is necessary to prepare your baby for this stage, so that it goes well.
Quietly, briefly and specifically answer the child's questions about the genitals. There is no need to philosophize on this subject philosophically. The child has a question - you answer it. Most often the child is satisfied with this. In the case when the kid needs to understand something or explain - explain only necessarily on the topic of the question.
The kid does not need extra information. But in the case when the child does not receive enough information from you to his question, it is likely that he will go to look for an answer somewhere among his peers.
When a child asks questions, it means that the issue of gender differences is already in his interests, so do not assume that he is too small for this.
There is nothing wrong with the fact that it is quite difficult for some parents to pronounce "adult" terms while talking with their child. At the first stages it is enough to confine oneself to those expressions that you and your baby used before in the designation of the sexual organs. Over time, you can explain to him that adults use other expressions and words.
Details that describe the sexual life of a man and a woman can not be told. But it is necessary to tell about the structure of the body and the fact that the baby was before birth in the mother's abdomen. A child should know from early childhood how babies are born, that they are not brought by storks, not found in cabbage, and do not buy in a store. And when you are walking with a baby and on your way to meet a pregnant woman, it is worth explaining that inside her is a boy or girl, and he will leave the tummy of his mother when he can already live on his own. Your intuition will certainly tell you how to continue the conversation in case the child has additional questions. The child will always be frank with you if he has the confidence that he will receive from you a detailed answer to the question that has arisen.