The old truth says that a man can not be changed. However, every girl in the soul hopes that maybe he, her beloved, is not like everyone else. What if she succeeds in changing it? All sorts of love stories of friends and acquaintances about the magical power of love, which radically changes a man, only strengthens this hope. Thanks to similar, most likely embellished stories, a woman tries to understand the intricacies of her far from ideal man, while concocting many excuses for his frankly ugly acts.
Starting to live with a man, a woman is forced to constantly struggle with his shortcomings. In this tough struggle, there is neither the time nor the strength to even experience the happiness of a shared time. There is an opinion in society that if you can not change the situation, you can try to change the attitude towards it. For example, a bad character is terrible only as long as we consider it as such.
What is a "heavy character"?
Names for a man with whom it is very difficult to get along in one territory, there is a lot. Usually in everyday life you can often hear the following characteristics - "brawler", "grumbler", "beech", "stubborn". The choice of the desired characteristic depends on the emotionality of the woman, who is either accustomed to express her feelings expressively, or vice versa she prefers to choose a more calm form, so as not to spoil the family idyll.
Which features should be attributed to the difficult nature - it is very difficult to say. No one can draw a line between acceptable features and absolutely unacceptable shortcomings. However, there is a huge amount of advice, recommending in time to remain silent or suffer, so as not to bring the situation to a serious conflict.
Educating a man to achieve his own gain
Men need to be educated just like children. The duty of the woman to explain, and maybe even teach her loved one to perform some duties in the home and without extra reminders, to participate in the resolution of domestic difficulties, even if he has any objections about this.
In the minds of women, for unknown reasons, a strong desire is formed not only to find a compromise to solve a problem, but also to cultivate in a man the qualities that, in her opinion, are missing. As a result, a huge responsibility falls on the shoulders of the girl, commensurate only with the responsibility to her own child, which must be prepared for the future life. The difference is only that the upbringing of a baby is sooner or later justified, but it's impossible to say this about a loved one.
A woman can always find many reasons for fighting male defects. Among them there is one very important: for a woman the change of a man is the way to a long and happy life, without problems and troubles. Agree with this or not - every girl should decide individually. For example, you can make a simple test: to form a list of two columns, where in the left side indicate its merits, and the right flaws. Such a test will remind a woman what her favorite person in reality and for what qualities she fell in love with him.