"The first marriage is from God, and the second from the Evil one," says the old folk wisdom. Let's see if she's lying? Maybe the second marriage will be much more successful?
For the first time, women are married at a fairly young age. Although we strive to be equal to Americans who, first of all, receive education, make a career, and then create a family by the age of 30-35, everything is different for us. Russian girls wear an engagement ring for the first time in 20-24 years. The reasons for making such an important decision are different: some, in a fit of high and light feelings, want to legitimize their relationship, while others want to legitimize an unborn child. But the problem lies much deeper. The fact that young people do not understand enough of all the responsibility of what is happening. Family is not only kissing by the moon, it is a huge work on building relationships, finding a compromise and accepting a person with all its merits and demerits. A person after 20-21 years is already formed as a person, and it is almost impossible to make a correction of his behavior. There are two options: to accept a man as he is, or to look for another whom you want. Believe me, the third is not given, sculpting something from someone will cost much more than you in all respects. According to statistics, Russia has become one of the first countries in terms of the number of divorces. In Moscow every second married couple is divorced. The main causes of divorce: alcohol abuse, lack of housing, low material level and dissimilarity of characters.
What is the woman to do when the cell of society has disintegrated, and the word "divorced" appeared in the personal data?
First of all, in no case can you blame yourself, reproach yourself, dig into yourself and find flaws. So you will develop a neurasthenia or an inferiority complex. It is necessary to close all previous relations to the castle, and leave the key on a bench in the park. Remember, to live "here and now" is the seed of wisdom and happiness.
Divorce is stress, and it is replaced by positive emotions. Think about what you would like to do - learn how to dance, sew, knit, learn a new computer program or prepare some delicious dish. And maybe you have an old unrealized dream to go to some country? It will perfectly distract you.
Also, dear Ladies, do not forget about your appearance. Descend or go to the cosmetician, the masseur, make a manicure. Every day, spoil your body with baths with essential oil of orange - this procedure perfectly relaxes and improves mood. Sign up for a fitness club - this is not only the way to a slender and smart figure, but also the opportunity to make new acquaintances.
Go shopping, as my friend says, "shopping inspires!". Buy yourself a dress of your dreams, and you can not just dress ...
Every day, try to engage in self-development - it does not mean that you have to solve problems in algebra, here it is a question of spiritual self-improvement. You must learn to forgive people, understanding that people have mistakes, control themselves in manifesting negative emotions, communicate with people and see in them, above all, positive aspects.
Many women after the divorce have an offense and, even hatred for the whole masculine gender, they believe that all men are "theirs," and surround themselves with a "female retinue." Understand, for one person does not judge the whole half of humanity, just caught is not your man. Imagine your ideal man, but do not draw a face, but think about the character traits you want to see in him. Let Him be kind, with a sense of humor, creative, affectionate, loving children. With this exercise, you will form in your head exactly your ideal image of a man. Well, reality does not take long.
How to start life with a clean slate after a divorce? In some cases, when a divorced woman is left with a child or even two children. She deliberately does not want to arrange her personal life because of fear of the negative influence of the stepfather on the upbringing of children. It happens that children themselves persuade the mother not to meet with "unfamiliar" men. To a woman, one must understand here that one must not indulge all the desires and whims of one's child, create an idol out of him, worship him, nudge his bad "ego", otherwise one will have to regret it. We need to find an approach to the child, explain the situation to him, while showing all the maternal tenderness and love. Explain that the new family will be reborn, that they will love him even more, and he will become even happier.
Women torment themselves with questions about whether their new father will love children from their first marriage. The reality is that if a man loves a woman, then he will love children. If it's real feelings.
Having engaged in your favorite business, discovering new talents in yourself, you will not notice how fate will give new, more mature and harmonious relationships in which you will find lost happiness. Remember that the decision to start life from scratch after a divorce depends on you! Good luck!