Well, let's start with the fact that if in a relationship you think that you are in a cage, then this relationship is not what you need. The fact that you have a regular guy and the fact that you finally got a permanent relationship that should please you and bring happiness. Consistency should bring you happiness and this will be freedom for you. And when you do not want to look at other guys, but want to look and live only your boyfriend, then this is the main sign that you love, and this fidelity should bring you pleasure. Other guys will not bring so much happiness only from their presence, like a loved one.
But what to do when all the happy is forgotten, and want the very freedom that was once before the beloved guy? I'll tell you on an example, the situation is the following, two friends met, one has a constant guy and great love, but sometimes she completely forgets about it, and she starts dreaming about a past life when she did not have it yet. And the other girl is "in free flight", one covenant in the cinema, the other gives flowers, the third is waiting at the entrance and confesses in love. One loves simple inconspicuous clothes, jeans and sweatshirts, and the other is always well-groomed, with manicure and make-up, styling and heels, and, despite this, one has a loving guy to madness, and the other has only fleeting dates. Two absolutely different girls. One is older, the other is younger, one dreams now of carefree relationships without commitment and without love, but only with amorousness, as before, as it was once, long ago, before meeting him, and the other seeks faster "to enter the adult way". So, the question is, what are we girls want in the end?
Love! Of course, we want big and pure love, but did we even think about what will happen after we get our love? This can be compared with a wedding ... we dream of a wedding, a white fluffy dress, flowers, diamond rings, a wonderful wedding trip, but do we think about what awaits us on the other side of the wedding shore? What kind of life will we have? No clubs, because you are already a married woman, no free time, because all free time will belong to her husband. Washing, ironing, cooking and not for yourself is first of all, and for him, the experience begins, as if the soup can not be oversaturated, or as if his shirt does not spoil, or how he would not see the dust on the floor, and so on.
The same thing we experience after finding love, we can no longer turn fleeting novels, no flirting on the side, no dating with guys, sometimes no clubs, and even meetings with girlfriends - that's already who will be as lucky. And on the other hand, no depression that nobody needs you, there is always moral and spiritual support, and it is not necessarily painted before you, because he loves you anyway. We stop appreciating what we have been going on for so long, and forget how difficult it was in a free life. It is love, it is the relationship with a loved one that should bring freedom and enjoyment.
One wants romances, flirting, flowers, to get it, but she has someone who saves her from the cold and loneliness. The one who loves her anyway and wipes her tears when they watch melodramas together. And the second wants to find his love and hurries to connect his life with him rather than be vague and lonely, because it's so cold at night, when silence wraps everything around and she remains alone with her thoughts, and there's no getting away from them. In all of course there are both positive and negative sides, both in a free life, and in life connected with another life ?! We are created to love, and love is our true freedom, spiritual freedom. In order to sometimes diversify their relationship, you can add role games to them, for example, get acquainted again, or flirt as newly-acquainted people, the main thing in this case is to have artistry and get used to the role. A beloved guy will understand everything and go for everything for the sake of his beloved woman, the main thing is all is soft and accessible to explain.
We always want what we do not have, and how easily we can give up what we have and from those who are always with us. No, it's not easy to refuse and it's not easy, and why should you refuse? To become lonely again, and clubbing in clubs in search of new acquaintances for the sake of a bouquet of flowers and a bottle of champagne? What for? Nothing will replace a flower filled with love and attention, which is given to us by our beloved person. In the end, this is the meaning of our life - in love, and finding love, we gain the meaning of life. If all the same you wanted that old life, and you ceased to enjoy the relationship with your lover, just remember how bad it was without him, how you fell into depression and you were lonely. And then all the love for him will return to you, and you will immediately want to hug him or call him if he is not around. The desire to give up reality, and one's life and live a strange life arises at least once in everyone, it's normal, because "it's always good where we do not exist," as folk wisdom says.