It's no secret that the modern world is full of dangers, especially for those who can not protect themselves. We raise children in the hope that they will learn to combine those qualities that we can not combine ourselves. For example, friendliness and ability to understand people, the ability to trust and distinguish between good and bad, the ability to respect others and the ability to stand up for oneself. Many of this know how, and we, but do we know how to instill useful skills for children? As in trying to teach him to be careful not to overdo the stick and not raise a coward in him?
1. The first and most important rule of child safety is full trust between all members of the family. It sounds like a utopia, but it is trust between adults and children that helps to avoid and prevent many problems. The formation of such a family model lies entirely on the shoulders of adults. It depends on the parents, whether the child will go to their problems with them or prefer the advice of strangers. Try to be interested in everything that happens in the life of the child, but do not be obtrusive. Do not scold children for sincerity, even if they do not confess to the best actions. Be wise, because every word and every act is a contribution to your future relationship.
2. The second rule is that as long as the child is under your responsibility, he must ask for permission before doing any things or go somewhere. Each family has its own rules, some allow their children more, some less. But the child should ask your opinion and permission before, for example, take a gift or a treat, go somewhere, especially if it does not concern his habitual environment.
3. The third rule is proper communication with other adults. We often tell our children: do not open the door to anyone, do not talk to strangers. But the child has to communicate with people whom he does not know, this is normal. Teach him that other people do not have the right to order him and demand something from him, they can not threaten and intimidate him. If this happens, you need to call for help or run away. Also, teach the child to never go anywhere with other people's adults, no matter what they say. List what deceptive ways might try to entice a child and explain that you can always call your parents first or go home before you take your word for it.
4. The fourth rule is permanent accessibility. Do not be stingy to buy communication means for the child, which would help you to be together. Mobile phone, email, regular phone, all this can come in handy when you are not around, but your help is needed. Teach the child to talk about what he does and is going to do, where he is going to go. The more he tells you, the more you know about what kind of life he lives.
5. The fifth rule is that the kid should know by heart his name, surname, patronymic, address and home phone number. He must know the names of his parents, who and where they work, how they can be found. He also needs to know what help services he can call in this or that situation.
6. The sixth rule is encouragement. If the child noticed something unusual and told you, always praise it. Let it be just a toy forgotten by someone on the playground. This is a guarantee that he will tell about more serious things, if such things happen.
7. Seventh rule - control the feelings of shame. Intimate topics and intimate bodies are often a taboo subject in many families. This should not happen if you are really worried about the safety of your child. He must know the names of his sexual organs, even if they are not scientific, comic, but he must be able to tell about them, if necessary. For example, if he sees a man who tried to undress with children. Also, the child should know that none of the adults, except doctors and parents, if necessary, has the right to touch his intimate parts of the body. It always speaks of danger. Teach your child that embraces of strangers, and even more so kisses, are also unacceptable. Not necessarily the person who hugged your child, a pedophile or a maniac, but he may be sick with a contagious disease, for example, tuberculosis. You should be able to explain this to the child.
8. The eighth rule is the ability to say "no." For children, adults are endowed with magic power, their authority is unshakable. Therefore, in many cases, it is difficult for them to say to an adult "no", even if it requires something obscene or frankly dangerous. Teach the child to refuse to adults if their requests look strange - please go somewhere, touch the adult or allow to touch the child, try to put presents and sweets or go for a drive. Your child should obey adults - teachers, doctors, policemen, parents of friends, but as long as their requests fit into the notion of normal. What will be these ideas for your child - it depends on you.
Trying to protect the child from possible danger, it is important not to bend the stick. Do not bully the child, otherwise he will see a maniac in every adult, and this will not be useful for his psyche. Be reasonable and be close with your children. Trust and a reasonable approach to a possible danger, lack of fear and caution will be a good guarantee that nothing will happen to your child.