What to do?
Let's figure out what will happen if you still give in to the baby? As a result, keenly aware that his vagaries and terrible behavior will solve his difficulties, since the parents in any case will go to him for concessions. We recommend not to make mistakes that lead to bad behavior of the child.
When a kid can not get what he wants, he rolls the hysterics in a public place. This behavior is part of the habit and he manages the parents to achieve their goals. The child thinks: either give in, or suffer my bad behavior. All scenes of this kind of children are used to manipulate their parents.
A few tips for pacifying hysteria
Do not forget that no one knows your child better than you
You all know about him that he is tired or frustrated. And most importantly, you know how to help. Prepare it, say that if it feels tired, then you will take a break and rest. And if he feels that he can not stand it anymore - you will go home. And if he rolls a fit, then you'll go home. If parents have studied the nature of their baby, discuss with him in advance plans, it is much easier for him to manage his behavior, especially in a social place.
Tame your child, but only gradually
If you are aware of the hysteria of the child in public places, then try to wean him gradually from it. In other words, if the baby can not withstand the hike through the shopping center, then start, for example, with a pharmacy. Tell him to look at his behavior and go on for a few minutes. You need to clearly identify all the rules. So you can control the child's situation and behavior. Start small, teach the child to communicate, solve the problem and act correctly.
A few rules
Before you go out into the world, you must clearly identify all the constraints associated with the behavior. Children should know for sure the consequences of their wrong behavior. For the development of children from nine to twelve years old, store in the car a card that will set out three rules:
- from the first time to respond when they ask for something
- the word no is also the answer
- to behave and not raise your voice
Remind the child of the above rules before visiting a store or shopping center. This will help the child not to lose control, as sounding these rules helps the child develop his own behavior.
For example, the situation: you were discharged a penalty for speeding, the next time you will rush, you will remember about this unpleasant moment and will not exceed the speed limit. It really works! Here we take for example America, in every state every 10 km you can see the sign of the speed limit. That is why you need to promote the concentration of your child's attention and everyone to strip out the appropriate reminders.
If the rules are violated
If the established rules still do not work for the child and he starts hysteria, it is necessary to take him away. If he starts hysterical, stay until he does not finish it and take him out of the store after that. The show is over, most of the purchases!
If the baby is very small, you can take it out of the store by the hand. If it does, you do not need to use force. Let him arrange a tantrum, but just watch, answering the perplexed people that he has hysterics, but you can not affect him in any way. So it is necessary to do so, until the child is incomplete to roll up hysterics in public places. If you can, take the hands of the book or some magazine so that he understands that you do not pay any attention to his scenes.
Of course, you can become embarrassed. However, you must realize that the child is all marrying, that you will be embarrassed to go back and follow his demands. This is the same blackmail that he will apply to you, until the wise change the situation. The child is sure that you will yield, otherwise he will blackmail and embarrass you in front of everyone, putting in an embarrassing position. Parents should in no case allow themselves to become hostage to emotional blackmail.
Remember that if you do not succumb to the provocation of children, they try to find another way out to solve the problem.
Let the child stay at home
Nothing bad is to leave your child under the care of the house. Tell him that he will not go with you, because last time he behaved very badly and did not manage to control his behavior. Then he made a tantrum, so today he is at home.
If the child asks you to go with you and promises good behavior, then tell him that you want to see how he will behave at home, and if everything goes well, then the next time you take it with you. And still leave the child at home. Let him understand that you will not succumb to his blackmail, that you are a strong person and you do not refuse decisions!
These methods will help to fix your whimsical kid and make him more responsible. Do not punish him by force, do not put in a corner, do not shout. He will not endure anything from this, except for fear of stumbling and deep-seated bears on you. Try to approach the problem as a psychologist. Explain, make think about the cause and effect. Communicate, explain, and if you suddenly feel that you are not coping, contact a child psychologist. He dastavam good advice, and talk with the child and help to realize the error. Education is a painstaking work, which you should never forget!