Many mothers worry about the fact that their babies often touch their genitals, so they try to wean it. And quite often children start to be engaged in it already from one-year-old age. Often parents notice how children touch themselves at the age of 3 to 7 years and even play "indecent games". Moms and dads scolded their little ones for this, explained that it was impossible to do so, and they say in the orderly tone that they would fall asleep with their hands over the blanket. But let's see if it really is such a big problem, and whether to be afraid of parents.
Every child from the very first day and the next six to eight years passes a very long way of studying yourself, other people and the world as a whole. To us parents, it is important to remember that it is at this age that the baby gets all the most necessary knowledge and basic life. In Russian culture traditionally every child was called a "child". Then especially did not distinguish the baby's bottom. And when the child was three years old, he was to be initiated into the floor. The girl must wear a dress, ribbons and plaits, well, boys dressed up accordingly.
The child must learn the corporeal and the body of others, for him it is important. He must understand what he has differences and similarities with other people. Each child in these actions pursues a completely different goal than we, adults. After all, think, as a rule, sexual education of children is mainly based on hygiene rules, parents and teachers are confused by curious and indecent children's issues. Dear parents! For children this topic is the same as all the others, they do not see the differences, because they are interested in everything in equal measure. For any kid, ask: "Where do the children come from?" Is as natural and simple as to ask: "Why is it blue?".
The most interesting is that when the child is studying the face, arms and legs, the parents react quite calmly. But just a crumb begins to explore his sex organs, parents are lost and they begin to think that their baby can grow perverted and dissolved. Parents want to learn: how to react to the sexual games of children. Children are more observant than any of us. They very quickly determine the role of each person in your family, they understand that the leader is the leader of the house, who you need to listen to, and whom you can not pay attention to. Therefore, you can not hide the intimate side of life from them either . Especially when a child goes to school, he has more opportunities to access such information. However, remember that a child usually does not perceive this information as sexual.
So, along with the arrival of the information, the kids start playing sexual games, as a rule - they are fragments of games in the family. Sometimes children can depict the actions of adults, while imitating some form of intimate activity. When parents discover this, they become confused. However, joke and vzvomuschatsya in these moments is not worth it. If your child is healthy, then the games of a "sexual" nature do not cause him any excitement, so while you are not correctly interfering the child is simply unconsciously playing, and this perceives this side of reality as usual and quite integral, because it is so.
But as soon as the adult begins to question how the kid played, to try everything in detail, to shame the child, he immediately begins to change his mind and understand that the transcendental something special, very interesting and the most important forbidden feature. But you do not repel interest by your actions, atolko increase it. The child understands that in the open to him to play so it is impossible, here he begins to hide. Moreover, very often the toddler understands why he is punished, but there is always the feeling that if he acted badly, then the parents, for whom he repeated, are doing something dirty, obscene and unauthorized. So you can create a certain psychological barrier between you and the child. It also becomes clear to the baby that it's bad to touch the genitals and get interested in them. So the child can have a certain city complexes, all kinds of deviations and secret experiences.
There is also a second aspect: a mrochemist gets pleasure from his body, and manifestations of this can be absolutely different. If you stop this, limit and reproach the child, then it may be wrong to form a relationship to sexual life in a more mature age. You have to wisely guide and correct the behavior of the crumbs.
So do not be afraid of games, where the children are studying other people and themselves. Moreover, do not try to slander and desecrate this interest. It is much better if the child develops on your eyes. By the way, in the old days children visited the bathhouse together with their parents until they reached adulthood, so they saw them naked and could study. They also slept in the same room. Talk with a throat, ask what is important and interesting to him. Do not be an overseer, try to become a baby friend.