Take, for example, a phenomenon such as envy. Without resorting to the help of Wikipedia or Google, everyone will give an unmistakable definition of this concept, moreover - absolutely everyone faced it in life. We will try to tell you, what is really envy: the stimulus of achievement or the murderer of joy?
Where does the "leg" grow in envy?
Strangely enough, but the envy has a clear emotional nature, that is, being in a state of relative happiness and satisfaction with life is hard to force oneself to be envious, although it is possible. But being in frustrated feelings, and while contemplating something that you do not have, the feeling of strong pressure somewhere in the depths of your soul is almost impossible to avoid.
Whoever said anything there, but everyone is jealous without exception. Every morning, a girl with curly hair envies the one with whom they are straight and obedient. Standing at a stop in anticipation of public transport, everyone is envious of motorists passing by. The envy of the girl "pyshki" to the girl "thin" is unavoidable. Even brunettes tend to be jealous of blondes, and vice versa. Perhaps you can not call someone who at least once in his life did not envy, except that the baby, but this fact has not yet been investigated at the scientific level.
This is not a vice, just some people envy more and more often others. Someone is so susceptible to the "pressing toad", which is no longer able to hide it with simple acting skills, and it becomes impossible and terribly unpleasant to communicate with this person. Some are able to pretend, presenting their envy under the guise of more kind feelings. It's not a secret for anyone that envy is not approved by society. The envious is also aware, but realizing both the facts: "I envy" and "envy - bad" it is more difficult for him to live, being in constant struggle with himself.
Symptoms of "pressing toad"
As is known from the course of school physics, "nothing is taken anywhere and does not go anywhere without reason". Here, too, envy is not born out of nowhere, but is caused by something to which there is interest. If after a conversation with someone you have worsened your mood for no apparent reason, it was sad, overpowered philosophical questions, there were unusually angry notes in your voice - well, hello, envy! We recommend to calm down, pull yourself together, deal with the cause and the subject of envy, and most importantly - to understand how to achieve this. Reflections and strategy development will lift the mood, since this process is carried out by that part of the brain that is responsible for positive emotions.
"Toad-chameleon"One day someone suggested the idea of coloring envy with certain colors, namely black and white. Such a classification, to be honest, is more than incorrect. Considering the spectrum of colors from white to black, it can be seen that an infinite number of tones, halftones and shades remain on the sidelines. Why can not envy be red or blue? Here in the books often write: "turned yellow with envy" and "turned green with anger" - this, in your opinion, just an artistic device?
All emotions are bright colors, of which our life consists and we should not look at things using the monochrome approach "black and white". It's trite and boring.
Create your own motivating gradation of envy. For example, if you are envied "in white" - take it as an endorsement, praise, and you can feel like an ideal for imitation even for a second (but no more). Red envy can act as a stimulus for achievement and prompt for accomplishments, victories and the search for new peaks. Yellow - on the contrary, will make it clear that with all the success and luck somewhere you are seriously mistaken - in some way dual this kind of envy. Each of us sees the situation differently, feels people and reacts to their emotions.
For some people it is envy that leads to constant improvement. They have new goals, aspirations and interests. The minimum of malice - the maximum of actions - the maximum of success. As they say, "I see the goal - I do not see any obstacles."
Similarly, envy can devour a person, he will not be able to rejoice at the success of a neighbor, what is there to say, even a best friend. "Toad" as if will release a poison that will destroy the soul, poison the entire body, deprive the peace and mood.
"To envy is bad, but if there is nothing to be jealous of - even worse . " Live so that there is no time and energy to envy someone, do everything in your power to envy you.