The modern rhythm of life leaves its imprint on our bodily and especially psychological health. Endless stress. Lack of time for proper rest. Problems in the family and at work. Itself is difficult to cope with these problems. Even communication with a girlfriend is not very helpful in this situation. Here you need the help of a specialist. Namely - a professional psychologist.
We do not even suspect how much communication with a psychologist can make life easier for us. No heart-to-heart talks can not help us as much as working with a specialist. In the arsenal of a professional psychologist, a rich practice. He came across different situations and developed an optimal method of helping patients in each specific case. In addition, a good psychologist is interested in the experience of his colleagues and adopts the best.
Do not rush to address your neighbor with your heartache. Of course, if you can get someone to cry in your vest, it will be easier for you. But only for a while. The painful condition will return again. In order to restore psychological balance, cardinal measures are needed. Remember that stress is not an abstract concept, but a morbid state of the body. And without the help of a psychologist for full recovery can not be counted.
In the West, a visit to a psychologist is also common, as with us - a visit to a hairdresser. Europeans and Americans are practical "to the core". And if the psychologist did not help, they would not pay a lot of money for their services. Therefore, it is worthwhile to learn from their experience.
In our country, more and more people turn to psychologists for help. Their services are not cheap. And not a professional approach can only hurt. Therefore it is very important to choose the right psychologist. Psychologist, this is a kind of manipulator. Having entered into the trust to the patient, he can influence his consciousness, dictate decisions and deeds.
So how to choose the right psychologist and not fall for the bait to the fraudster?
A psychologist is chosen in the same way as a doctor is chosen. Whatever regalia he has, at the first meeting you evaluate him on an intuitive level. And if you do not like something, maybe you should look for another specialist. In psychology, as nowhere, you need to have a trusting contact between you and the psychologist. After all, you will have to trust him with the most intimate and painful.
If you overcome prejudice and decided to turn to a specialist, do not be too lazy to ask friends and colleagues. Perhaps someone already has a positive experience with the help of a psychologist and can recommend a specific doctor. This saves you a lot of time and nerves.
If you find a specialist yourself, do not hesitate to find out about his qualifications in detail. First of all, he must have a diploma. Ask what kind of education and specialization he has. It's unlikely that a child psychologist will help an elderly woman skillfully.
During communication, you must be alerted by the promise of quick results. In psychotherapy, any guarantees are not very appropriate. Also you should be alerted by the desire of a specialist to "get to know you better". Personal contacts are a sign of a highly unprofessional nature. Of course, you can not order your heart, but then you will have to look for another psychologist. By the way, a lot of films have been shot on this topic.
The danger signals also include the desire to impose a philosophy on you. And also attempts to persuade you to work in a group (unless it's a question of treating social phobia). An unfair psychologist in pursuit of profit is more profitable to accept more clients in less time.
A professional psychologist should not operate with religious concepts and symbols. If he appeals to faith, without knowing about your attitude to religion, then perhaps you are an agitator of any sect.
A psychologist is not a doctor. As a rule, he has a higher education in humanities. He should not use medication. Do not confuse a psychologist with a psychiatrist and a psychotherapist. A psychologist will help you, if you have a constant apathy, a depressed state, tortured complexes. If you do not have a relationship in the family or at work. If you need help your child.
A psychiatrist and a psychotherapist have a higher medical education. They are well aware of the physiological mechanisms of the work of the psyche and use medications in the treatment. It is a mistake to think that psychiatrists treat only mentally abnormal people. They will help a person with chronic depression, suffering from increased anxiety, obsessive conditions, struggling with various phobias. The psychotherapist has in-depth knowledge of psychology and psychiatry. He works with the most difficult cases. In his work can use light hypnosis and role-playing games. The therapist helps to cope with the most severe nervous upheavals related to violence, loss of a loved one, a survivor of a disaster or an accident. Therefore, decide what specific assistance you need.
You can know a huge number of psychotechnics, operate with terminology, but be a bad psychologist. If the specialist himself did not solve his own problems, was tired of people, stopped sympathizing and understanding other people's problems, then his help would be superficial.
Also it is worth paying attention to the style of work of a psychologist. The professional should go for the client, and not hack, telling him what the client wants to hear. This is a very important point. If a person is told more than he is ready to perceive, he will "shut himself up in his shell" or be frightened. If you say less - he will leave the office with the feeling that the psychologist is not sufficiently qualified. And trust in this business is very important thing. Perhaps, it is trust that is the main cure for your mental recovery.
Psychology is a jeweler's work. And to expect that after one visit to a specialist all problems will be solved by themselves, do not. You must work in pairs. After all, a psychologist, unlike a doctor, does not prescribe a medicine, after which you will immediately feel better. You must be prepared for the fact that such cooperation is a hard and laborious work.