Simple arguments are sometimes born because of a small, inappropriate comment. In the inevitable establishment of harmonious relations, some face an obstacle: a friend begins to exhibit himself extremely aggressively, even irrepressibly, believing that he is being impelled by someone else's, not liked opinion. Here you also think about how to avoid conflict with friends, so that no one is hurt.
Although this is especially common in seemingly peaceful family gatherings, when the holiday claims to be a minefield place: it's not what she said, but he did the wrong thing. What kind of harmonious and friendly interaction can there be? Often there are also conflicts with the boss or customers. Here the wrong word can cause serious consequences, not only moral, but also financial. But whatever the situation: whether with friends, family, bosses, there are certain phrases with techniques that are able to completely defuse the potentially impending situation, as well as to establish a similar situation. Conflict with friends should not take place.
Politeness.
"Thank you for your opinion. It's worth thinking about it. " Possible harmonious, civilized and friendly answer to any inappropriate question. In particular, if an incompetent friend imposes his wishes upon you. If at a friendly dinner one of the acquaintances asks you if you are still alone, still running into lengthy excuses, explanations, such as how and why, should not be. Avoiding quarrels with friends can be a simple answer: "Yes, I'll let you know if anything in my destiny changes." Remain extremely polite - the main goal, and until the end of this unpleasant conversation. It is not worth taking a defensive, all the more hostile, position, while remaining rude.
The mood for conversation.
"Are you now able to speak?" - a good phrase that will help determine if a friend is ready for a harmonious and full-fledged conversation. Answer "No" - play will be in one gates: most likely, the friend will pretend that he listens well to you, but in fact will think about an important, his event. This phrase will also help in communication with the spouse (who is watching the next series), and at work (when discussing an emergency issue, when the employee at this time is busy with another matter). Do not get into an unpleasant hysterics when you hear "no." Question: "When will it be appropriate?" Will be the best. People are tactful, worthy, always valued, unlike "those who wear water."
No orders.
What certainly should not be done in relation to friends, so talk to them in an orderly tone. Even if it is really necessary. Often, you are confronted with the reactions of a friend, such as "Is not your business", or "Are you, authority"? Then it's better to revise the approaches to improve relations. It is better to find out from a friend if he wants to hear something, in particular, what they will say to him. It is better to keep silent when "no", because otherwise aggressive actions will follow immediately, but do you need it?
Joint labor.
Often friends become partners in life, or colleagues. Phrases "I need friendly help. Could you ... ", in such a situation can not be avoided. When colleagues do not take at least part of the responsibility, people are often annoyed. This is due to the fact that they simply do not ask for it. Instead of all kinds of accusations against other accusations, either in laziness or incomprehension, or inattention, as psychologists advise, it is better to ask to do the necessary ones yourself. Requests are better to have accurate, clearer. Possible variant at work: "I will try to prepare a report, and you, please, check it." It's fun and easier to avoid conflict.
Refinements.
"Are you saying that ...?" Asking the right question, you can try to avoid a very serious conflict. We are all used to trusting our intuition, and to equate all under the same comb. Assumptions that specifically meant this or that phrase coming from the friend must go into the shade. Incorrect interpretation, as a result, can lead to untrue conclusions. It is better to learn than to guess.
Your opinion.
The proposal of a reciprocal action of something will be quite appropriate. Nobody advises to obey without restraint, it's not your opinion, but you will not get peace either. A point of view, not necessarily always coinciding with the opinion of a friend, must have a place to be. You can, for example, one of you go to one trading house, but in different departments, meeting in the end, at his entrance. Express your opinion always, and on the incoming question, then it is possible to seek a compromise, which necessarily, with a strong desire, there.
Support, but not reproach.
Naturally, nobody reproaches. It is better to sympathize, advise the decision than criticize. You yourself can be in a similar situation. Then, in return, you will receive the help of a friend. Even if the friend did not listen to the advice, he decided to do it his own way - it does not matter. Your language, of course, at the same time, it's so itchy to say, like "I told you!" You can not do this in any way. A friend and so in frustration, and excessive pressure on him to good good will not do. It is better to show your compassion with generosity. Such a help is a step forward. And, in the end, almost all of us are wrong, stupid.
Without friends, of course, hard. They will try to solve any problem with you together. The main thing is that a friend should be real. Then, and appreciate it, help him, love him no pity.