One of the main reasons for the treatment of families to a sexologist is the lack of sex with spouses. Intimate relationships are an important part of a harmonious marriage, the absence of sexual relations rarely suits partners. It happens that one of the partners loses the desire, and the other has to put up with it.
The spouses may have sexual problems that for a long time can not find a solution, as a result of which sex in such families falls down to the mark "zero". Partners may find that there are fewer reasons for quarrels between the icons and start living, not having each other's tea. However, harmonious relations can not exist without sexual intimacy.
You can find many explanations and reasons for such relationships, but they are often hidden, and even the most experienced sexologist can not immediately calculate them.
The most common problem is the desire to conceive a child. Spouses are engaged in sex only on certain days and consider it their duty, and unnatural desire. They do not get from the process of pleasure and relaxation. Serious problems in the family can begin after six months of such a relationship.
Pregnancy is also the cause of sexual abstinence. Women are afraid to harm the future child. The female organism is also tuned to become pregnant, as a result of which the level of libido is sharply reduced. Spouses consider that the husband should understand their condition, but a strong half of humanity does not always agree with this, which is the cause of conflicts, the succession of which can disappear at all. During pregnancy, partners should make compromises, and not all to suppress desire.
To reduce the sexual desire inevitably leads to postpartum depression. It is expressed in fatigue, suicidal thoughts, negative evaluation of the life of the near future. The psychological state of a woman after childbirth can be veiled, because often fatigue, bad mood and lack of sexual attraction are not seriously perceived. The duration of depression depends on family relationships and the strength of the hormonal outbreak. Over time, all-in-place, but there is a risk that the mood, well-being orbiosis may not recover.
Intimate life is affected by many factors, including stress, fatigue, malaise, fear of unwanted pregnancy, betrayal of a spouse and a low self-esteem. However, the most terrible problem, according to sexologists, is a habit. When the storm of passions and emotions ceases, relations become dry and insipid, the spouses live each with their own lives. Sexual intimacy ceases to bring pleasure, it becomes a habit, and the lack of an emotional component suppresses desire. Sex in such families can exist as a mandatory ritual, and in time, and completely move to new partners. To sexual relations have not outlived themselves, they need to be maintained, developed and constantly heated up by interest.
In order to fix the relationship, enough one desire to make them better. Even when addressing a sexologist, you need to be tuned to change, because experts will give the standard advice on how to improve the relationship. You can rearrange the furniture in the apartment, find a common passion, go on a romantic trip, but all these examples will be effective only for those couples who are in a good mood.
To solve problems of a sexual nature, there is even a special science - sex therapy. It combines behavioral and conjugal psychotherapy, during which the spouses are affected, helping to remove the sexual component of the relationship from the brakes. As a result of treatment, it often turns out that unexpected things can happen as a "brake", for example, such that after the birth of children the spouse perceives the wife as her relative (mother, sister). As her duties, the husband sees only the care of the spouse, the resolution of her problems, but a taboo on sexual intimacy is imposed in the subconscious. With such a look at the partner, there is no sexual attraction, but the warmth of the relationship and tenderness persist.
Most couples can not solve the problems of the sexual life of a layman independently, but the sad fact is that many do not even try to solve them, convincing themselves that they live a full life. Sex - the pledge of harmonious family relationships, and its absence can be compared with a delayed-action bomb.