Constantly encourage
"You will be able to build a pyramid!" You were the most beautiful girl on the matinee! This is your drawing? What a clever one! "- life-affirming and stimulating remarks to the child are simply necessary, especially when they are heard from the parents' lips.This support will help shape the little man's inner self-respect He will grow active, self-confident.The strength of the influence of your word on the child is so great that it can raise self-esteem, even using non-existent virtues. "What a beauty you have!" - says the loving m It's not surprising that after twenty years a girl whose parameters do not quite match the model ones does not suffer from complexes, does not wear herself out with diets, but, confident of her own irresistibility, has a resounding success in the opposite sex.This means the correct installation, given in childhood!
When necessary, help
Do you feel that the child does not value himself high enough? Offer him an occupation in which he can express himself as much as possible and, thus, grow in his own eyes. For someone it is a sport game, for another - singing, dancing, drawing. These achievements will be noticed: they will be admired and praised. Positive feedback from the party is also "recorded" on the subcortex and at the conscious or subconscious level work for respect.
More often praise
The reason for this can always be found! Let the task in view be solved incorrectly, rejoice at how carefully the child signed his leaflet. Noting errors, immediately emphasize the success of the baby. Pay attention to all the child's achievements. The period of "grandiose self" goes to 6-7 years and can be replaced by a phase of doubts and fears. The child tries, speaking the adult language, to be competent and effective at his level. But this does not always work. At such moments the child simply needs to be supported, otherwise he risks growing up as a "loser".
How can you be less likely to get irritated by your child
Yes, children can (and how!) Get on your nerves. But your annoyance and discontent form the child's losing life strategy and significantly lower the level of his respect. Restrain more often: take more air, hold your breath and count to 10 - a banal method, but effective. But keep in mind that in praise you need to know the measure. At the child who is brought up in an atmosphere of hyperopeak and continuous exaltation of his merits, readiness for difficulties is atrophied, and in return, an overestimated self-esteem and excessive claims to the society are formed. Life principle "I am the best (the best), I should all!" does not lead to success.
Less criticize
Children's complexes are one of the main factors affecting the development of the child's personality. Under your unnecessarily meticulous gaze, they can degenerate into self-flagellation. A child constantly harassed by criticism, or for ever will lose self-esteem and self-confidence, or will prove his worth to you all his life. The first option is fraught with lack of initiative and lack of commitment in the future. The second option is bad because the will and determination to achieve the goals are not supported by a sense of satisfaction. And whatever the success, it seems that this is not enough, you need to get the result more weighty. "Winning a national song contest is nonsense, only international success is valued!", "It's not enough to throw 5 kilograms, it needs a dozen more to look normal," "I'm the director of the company, and what's the use? get ... "This is called hypercompensation and leads to physical and mental exhaustion. That is why it is important to balance the self-esteem of a person in childhood so that his desire to succeed does not atrophy along with the "shot" of your careless words by respect and does not turn into a real obsession.
Never allow yourself to be disrespected
Be for your child a model of high self-esteem. After all, examples of parents are very contagious. If you allow yourself to quarrel with the child, show disrespect for the spouse, mother-in-law, relatives and chance people (and vice versa - if all this they show in relation to you), then it will be difficult for your child to learn self-esteem lessons, whatever you say to him. Therefore, forbid yourself and your family to raise your voice in children, demand an apology for being rude, do not let your opinion be ignored. Then it will be easier for a child to act by analogy with you and realize the very essence of such a thing as self-esteem.