Yes, it was not easy ... But all these ailments do not go to any comparison with the difficulties that you encountered after the birth of your crumbs ... Probably, so argues any young mother, looking at a small "rattle", which, finally fell asleep, thereby giving her mother a short respite. At such moments, you begin to realistically realize the enormous responsibility that has fallen upon you, and which often frightens many mothers, and especially the inexperienced. How should you mobilize your forces, what should you do to become a good mom to a little man? After all, now it depends entirely on you, and you feel so unskillful, it seems to you that you do not know anything and do not know anything ...
Mom - rookie
The main thing is not to panic (yes, it's easy to talk, I know ...). To my firstborn I did not know how to approach, frankly speaking, I was completely desperate, but it so happened that right after the hospital we got to the hospital, where not only my baby was cured, but we also taught his inexperienced mother .I advise you to treat your new status as a profession, and in any profession there are newcomers, and they have a lot to learn. There is an opinion that no one better than a mother can know what her baby needs. Allow, is it really so? Let's be frank: at the very beginning of mom make a lot of mistakes, especially when it comes to the first-born. The truth is that most of these "mistakes in inexperience" are not terrible, and, conscious and correcting them, a young mother on the move learns how to properly handle the baby. But it is also true that there are also extremely important moments in the process of caring for the baby, which require special attention, because some errors can be hard to come up afterwards.
"Country of advice ..."
Finite, advice from oh as you need, resort to such help necessarily, but do not collect them, and do not apply everything to your baby ...It's ridiculous to tell the young mother that she should ask for advice - they themselves will sprinkle on you as a cornucopia, and from very close, not very close and generally quite distant relatives and friends. And often they will contradict each other. Almost all of us are parents, and, of course, we are in full confidence that in anything, and in the care of the child we understand.
Do not let this thread of advice overwhelm you with your head! How? Of course, it would be ridiculous to say that you already know everything, and therefore do not need advice, but still do not hammer your brains with numerous "recipes for growing baby", but for your mother, mother-in-law, relatives, cousins and second cousins, and of course, numerous friends ... You can get confused ...
Do not hesitate to ask for help
By the way, about the help ... It's no use rushing to the other extreme - to build a mother-heroine from herself, who does everything without any help. How much you still do not know and do not know how! A mother or mother-in-law can really help.Let's face it frankly: if there is an assistant who will take up at least a small part of caring for a baby (making a bottle with food or caressing children's things) - this will be of great help to you. Therefore, do not defend your ambitions, otherwise make mistakes, and, in the end, - just bring yourself to overwork ... And you so need your baby ...
Be economical!
I foresee the reaction to these words: wow advice! As if the author does not know that the birth of a baby already in itself shakes the whole family budget ?!And if you think smartly? Acquire only those things that are really necessary, do not buy them whole parties. At least in the first 2-3 months, look for an opportunity to save money, to more or less correct the family budget ...
At all I do not advise to deprive the kid of the most necessary. But the ill-considered purchase of clothes, creams, oils, etc. Do not make you a mom-excellent pupil.
Depression? We will fight!
Depressive state after childbirth ... Maybe this problem will seem to you not the most important among all others that have overwhelmed you, but in this carousel of cares it is important not to ignore this unpleasant state and to seek a way out of the situation. Do not think that this is a trifle, and this ailment has an explanation, as there are ways to deal with it.Ask one of the grandmothers to replace you for a short time (if you trust your husband - especially), and make a small walk - shopping, with girlfriends, in a hairdresser. But not more than 3 hours - until the next feeding ...
Do not ignore your "soul mate"
Unfortunately, the most common mistake of young mothers ... Which can have quite serious consequences, including for your child. Yes, I know, you feel so tired as never before in your life, the strength is just at the limit, but you should not forget that you are a woman.You need each other now much more than before the birth of your child. Sometimes the appearance of a child (let's say, a hard test!) Can lead to a rupture of marital relations, but in your huge list of important cases, include one more item - try not to allow this development of events in your life.
Feeding is not a universal way to calm a child
And changing diapers, by the way, too ... Some young mothers are in a delusion that the weeping of their crumbs is caused by two motives: hunger and a full diaper. Sometimes they are familiar with the third - the tummy hurts. But know, the reasons can be much more, and none of these does not fit!Learn the crying of your baby: it is not always the same, it varies depending on what your kid is complaining about at the moment.