For them, the line in the questionnaire "marital status - single" is an extremely important element, their sign of distinction. How can they not lose this difference in life - it is difficult to say. They themselves do not seek to advertise their methods, and it is not so easy to open the veil of their secrets. Maybe that's why the life of bachelors is surrounded by so many myths and legends. The most persistent and often encountered of them we will try to debunk.
Myth 1. A bachelor is any unmarried man.
With this first and most massive error, one can not agree at all. If a person still (or already) is not married, this does not mean that he is a bachelor. In order to be enrolled in a community of convinced bachelors you need a little more than the missing stamp in your passport. "Idle" marital status is not a social status, but a lifestyle. The circle of such people is rather narrow and they are all quite far from the family. The main feature of a true bachelor is an exceptional concern for the inviolability of his interests, habits, hobbies and attachments. And they consider marriage a real threat to their harmonious state. That's why real bachelors are painfully aware of even a slight hint of marriage.
Strangely enough, but this is what attracts fans to them. A bachelor is always a flock of pretenders to his hand and heart. This is akin to competition - who can "rack up" such an unshakable freedom-loving person?
Myth 2. A bachelor is always a low social rating.
Yes, there is certainly a certain percentage of "socially immature" bachelors, such mama's little sons, basically incapable of doing things. But they are still small, and the bulk of single men are well-to-do, self-sufficient personalities. Actually, it is this self-sufficiency that they guard so zealously, precisely with their security and do not want to part.
It is bitter to admit, but it is when entering into marriage that a man is most often deprived of the opportunity to achieve his perfection. It is family life that eats all its initial impulses. Equality of spouses is a pleasant illusion, but in reality always someone has to sacrifice their dreams, and maybe even both at once. So a bachelor - a creature is not at all inadequate, and, perhaps, very much the other way around. He has all the opportunities for self-development, and there is no obstacle to this, except, perhaps, his own laziness.
Myth 3. Bachelors hate and are afraid of women.
There is no doubt that the women themselves, who did not succeed in "ringing" a promising bachelor, came up with this. This is their personal puncture - it was not so obvious to demonstrate the desire to storm the registry office. Such hunters bachelor is nothing to recognize and circumvent them by the tenth way. In fact, they usually have no problems in communicating with the opposite sex. In addition, it is the bachelor who is able to discern in a woman, not the degree of fitness for marriage, but the personality. Bachelors are excellent comrades, allies, women's aides in life. At the same time, they do not pull anyone into the kitchen, do not hint at their unshielded shirt and do not try on the role of mother for their future children.
There are, of course, among them and misogynists, but no more than among other men. This is rather a character trait, and not a feature of the social situation.
Myth 4. A bachelor can not find a good job.
This myth is already pretty old, but still alive. Although in our time such a statement about bachelors can be divided only by the hardened employees of the personnel department from state structures. The attitude in modern society towards individuals has changed dramatically. Employers who have only recently bet on "zhenatikov" today prefer to prefer an ambitious bachelor. He is always free, mobile, can remain at any time overtime, without delay to depart on a business trip. According to statistics, the highest positions are now occupied by unmarried men.
Myth 5. Bachelors are buried in domestic problems.
A hungry, unshaven bachelor in dirty clothes who says "family situation is single" on his forehead, now you can see only in the old comedy film. A real modern bachelor always keeps a decent shape - this is his image. Convenient household appliances can easily cope with its everyday affairs. The bachelor is even pleased that he can deal with domestic issues on his own. In a critical situation, the service of everyday life or one of the voluntary assistants always available in its emergency list will always help out.
Myth 6. A bachelor does not have enough sex.
This crazy idea, often voiced by married men. They, most likely, just envy. Their main argument - "a bachelor can not make love when he just wants to, and the wife is always at hand." In fact, everything turns out quite the opposite - this married man usually waits for the moment when the children leave for their grandmother or when his wife ends the critical days. A bachelor for such a case always has a backup option (and not one).
And there is one more thing. A married man is often forced to make love when he does not want to. The bachelor does not have to force himself out because of the fear of being humiliated by "impotent" or "insensitive bastard".
Myth 7. Bachelors live less.
There is an inaccurate calculation. The fact is, young people who have not yet had time to marry are often regarded as bachelors, which in itself reduces the average age index. And some researchers refer to bachelors and divorced. This also significantly distorts statistics.
It seems that there is not one really convincing argument against the combination of "social position - single". But still, about several times a year, when all married friends are happy with family holidays behind the Olivier basin, the bachelor becomes sad. It is then that he secretly thinks about the life partner. And at that moment the bachelor is the most vulnerable.