How to help a child develop self-confidence and raise self-esteem?

It often happens that small children feel very insecure when they are left alone with the world around them, without a thorough support from their parents. According to the statements of children's psychologists, uncertain behavior and low self-esteem in childhood can grow into a stronger sense of insecurity, when in adult life he will hesitate in making important decisions. It is best to begin to develop the child's confidence in himself and in his power from childhood, constantly raising the self-esteem of the baby to a new level. Let's figure out how, after all, the way parents can make their children feel confident, independent and determined.

First , do not forget to constantly praise your kids. First of all, parents should remember that not all children are geniuses, that not all can catch knowledge and good habits "on the fly" without making much effort. But, nevertheless, each child has a unique quality that makes him talented and unlike others. Parents should simply treat their child with great attention, in order to find that unique quality, in the development of which, the child will become self-confident and independent. Often, the only thing parents should do when raising a baby is to encourage him in all their endeavors and aspirations, saying that everything will turn out well and that parents believe in it. If the kid suddenly fails to solve his homework on mathematics, then instead of resorting to shouting and criticism, provide support and help in solving this difficult task. Calm home atmosphere without shouting and noise, will give the child only confidence in their abilities.

Parents should never forget that all children are very sensitive to criticism, especially if it sounds from the lips of strangers, for example, from teachers or classmates. If you see that coming from school, the kid behaves insecure and upset, try to find the reason for this behavior. If after the conversation it turns out that he was scolded during the lesson for having poorly prepared his homework or did not learn something, clearly explain that the next time, you just need to more carefully prepare for the lesson.

Try to praise your baby, even for the most insignificant merit: for good performance in school, for winning a competition, for a beautiful hand-made article or drawing in a work class. Sometimes, even praise for good behavior in school or at home, acts on the baby is very beneficial.

Secondly , never expose or exaggerate bad actions or negative qualities of the child. Since all people on earth are imperfect, each of us has those qualities, traits and actions that we are not proud of and try to eradicate, including in children. But, nevertheless, parents should not constantly concentrate the attention of the baby on his negative qualities, inflating them in large volumes. It is for this reason that one should try not to use such phrases when talking to a child: "you are constantly behaving badly," "you have a terrible character," etc.

Constantly repeating such phrases in his conversation with the baby, you undermine his self-confidence, and it's not worth talking about self-esteem, as it will simply evaporate. If you want to show your child your discontent, then it's best to use other phrases, for example: "I was very upset today when you started to indulge and disobey me."

Thirdly , do not forget to give your children freedom in their choice and actions. Even some simple solutions that the child takes on his own can affect his confidence and self-esteem. It is not necessary to put complex tasks before the child, sometimes it is enough simply to offer him to choose which school he wants to study, or what clothes he wants to wear today in school.