Indeed, what is the best way to do this in order to get by with little blood?
It should immediately be noted that it is better not to start relations built on pity. Of course, it's painful to look at a person who is genuinely killed for you, and you can not give him anything in return. But, nevertheless, it's better to just let him go at once.
Of course it will be very painful and bad for him, but, believe me, then everything will get worse. Cases when a girl finally falls in love, are an exception to the rules. Often, the unloved just starts to annoy her, scandals, treason and parting, after which the guy is sure that all the women are bastards who simply do not deserve a good relationship. Do you really want your first good act to turn so.
But if you have already committed such a mistake, you must immediately do something about it. Understand, the man with whom you are around, sure that he will be able to conquer you and conquer. He does everything possible and impossible, not realizing that you can not be forced by force. After parting, he, most likely, will bitterly remember how much he has spent on you material and spiritual means. For this, even it is not worth taking offense, because it is very painful and, in its own way, mean, when a person is given a hope for what is certainly unrealizable.
So, you say: I do not like a guy, but I meet. What to do? It is necessary to break off this relationship. And, as soon as possible. If a man loves you very much, he can reach the offer of the hand and heart. And then the real tragedy will really be played out.
Of course, this person is already no stranger to you, you are used to it and, probably, some part of you does not want to let him go. Do not be selfish. Sooner or later you will meet true love and throw it without hesitation, humiliating and trampling on the man's dignity. So think about it and try to solve everything calmly and democratically.
In no case do not disappear, do not leave the phone and do not provoke a quarrel. A person should understand the real reason, and do not come up with excuses and seek an opportunity to reconcile. Therefore, you need to talk quietly. The conversation, of course, must be a tete-a-tete. In no case do not turn the parting into a public performance. This will offend the young person and humiliate him. You should try to explain to him the whole situation, tell about your feelings for him. You do not need to say stamps like: "it's not you, but me", "it just happened", "learn to live without me, it will be better". Say better what you really feel and how you see this situation. The real truth is always better than a beautiful lie. He, of course, will be very hurt, but at least you will feel that you at least respect his person.
After this conversation, let the guy clearly and clearly understand that there will not be a renewal of relations, so that he does not. Do not pay attention to his requests, and, perhaps, even tears. It's painful and very difficult, but it really will be better.
If he starts to write, call and search for meetings, ignore him and avoid him. Over time, the young man will understand everything and calm down. Believe me, one day he will be grateful to you for this act. There is nothing more pitiable than the guy about whom his girl thinks: "I do not like a guy, but I meet ...". And he constantly asks himself: "What should I do?".
But there are also relationships without love from the girl, when a man holds her by force. Unfortunately, there are guys who, because of their weakness and complexes, use women's fear and their strength. Such a man, whom, incidentally, a man can not be named, uses his superiority.
If the guy constantly threatens you, intimidates or even beats, then no conversations will not help. Such people are psychologically unbalanced. They can be stopped only by force and humiliation. If you understand that you can not cope, be sure to ask for help. Some women are ashamed to admit that they live or meet with a monster. This behavior is a great stupidity. Real friends and family will never condemn. On the contrary, they will do everything to help you.
If a young man threatens that he just will not let you go, it's worth trying to talk with him in the presence of your dad, brother or friends. Believe me, for such imbeciles, male power is the most powerful argument. He simply does not dare to intimidate and object if your close men explain him intelligibly what will happen to him in case you lose at least a hair. Remember that these guys are actually very weak and insecure. He holds you only because he is sure: he does not need anyone else. Such a representative of the male is able to raise his hand solely on a woman, because she is weaker and can not give change. Before real men they always tighten their tail and agree with everything they are told.
Do not torture yourself and continue to live next to such a person. And even more so, never feel sorry for him. He himself is to blame for being so weak, and you are not to blame for anything. Even if he asks for forgiveness after rubbish and beatings, even if he gives flowers and gifts - run away. Every year, the situation will get worse and worse. It's better to stop everything before he becomes your husband, and there will be children. Then everything will really get complicated and the child will suffer from his cruelty.
Love is a feeling of mutual, bright and joyful. If you can not name what is happening between you and your boy by any of these symbols, then there is simply no meaning in such relationships. Everyone deserves to be happy, so it's worth considering whether such relationships can bring happiness. Unfortunately this is not possible. Therefore, one can never be together with someone out of pity, sympathy, and even more so because of fear. So draw conclusions and start a new life, in which relationships will be built on love.