And yet, day after day, I am convinced that the human world does not differ from anything from the animal world. That in this, that in that world the males, having fertilized the female, throw both the female and the baby. Not in many animal species males take part in the rearing of offspring. The only difference between the human world and the animal world is that the animal, by throwing the female and the young, does not offend them, it leaves silently, forever forgetting its offspring. A man, leaving the family, offends both children and his wife, bringing these defenseless creatures maximum pain and suffering, often bringing them to tears, and banging their hearts in rattles.
In life, very often we come across this unnatural phenomenon, which is called divorce. I want to dedicate this article to the topic of " family breakdown and its consequences, divorce as an attribute of a modern family ". Nowadays every second family has survived a divorce. And fewer and fewer children grow up in a full-fledged family. Perhaps, there would not be no successful marriages if we could hear and understand each other, make compromises, and be able to support each other. We are fixated on ourselves and locked in ourselves, we know how to notice only ourselves and do not see another person. And in reality it turns out that people do not have any positive human qualities, or simply do not know how to use them, because we are only engaged in ourselves.
Where did we get so much negative that we can offend our children. The most despicable meanness, and in such people there is not a drop of human and not a drop of holiness. After all, the child is holy. To offend, to injure someone who is helpless from love for us, is very easy, because they do not know how to beat the pain and to be ridiculed of offense.
How long we wait for him to be born for nine months, how many we do not sleep at night, how much we try to make the childhood of the child happy, and some moral monster spoils the child all childhood, trimming the alimony, and saying that he does not his child. And how to explain to the child that his father cut alimony? The child does not know what alimony is and does not understand why her parents are divorced. How can I explain to my child that my mother can not buy this doll or a typewriter, because my father cut alimony?
Divorce - this process brings so much harm to the child, violating his psyche, and the child grows not a full-fledged person. His inferiority manifests itself not only in the upbringing of one parent, but also in the fact that the child, (especially if it's a girl), grows into a masculine hatcher. She will not recognize your second husband, or your boyfriend, nor will she see her spouse in her future. She will think that all men are like her dad. She will be afraid that your next marriage will bring you pain, but for the child, the suffering of the mother brings more suffering. The child will suffer from the fact that he can not do anything, that you would not suffer. It will hurt to see your tears. And how difficult it is sometimes to hold back tears before a child, how hard it will be to pretend to be strong, or pretend that nothing much has happened. But you will not cry, that would not injure the child once again, because the child is the meaning of our life.
Divorce will lead your child's discipline to undermine, he will stop obeying, he will do the opposite. There will be problems with progress, with friends, with memory. It will be especially difficult to cope with the child if he is in transition. By his behavior, he will show that he is against divorce. There will be an aggression to yourself and to others. He will blame himself for the fact that Dad left his mother because he was not an obedient child. The child will always be between you, you quarrel or get divorced. The child will always suffer more than his parents.
Even before the divorce, the child begins to feel that the parents are not all right. Your quarrels, which you so carefully hide from the child, will not go unnoticed by the child. Any problem between parents becomes a problem for your child.
And you yourself will begin to be afraid of men and marriages, because any divorce is painful, and any pain leaves an imprint in the soul and in the memory of a person. You will begin to fear that the former may happen again, that your child and your heart can again suffer.
Therefore, it is better to marry a good father of your future children than for your loved one. Love can end, and children will remain forever. Love dwarfs everything, it is like a fog, it can arise abruptly and eclipse everything, and can sharply dissipate, and then you will see what you have done. Therefore, before taking this important step in your life, think carefully about the consequences. You do not have to throw yourself into the pool.