How to learn to enjoy sex

Oh, these men! You try, you try, and some small detail can make all efforts to no. Or not a trifle, but a very significant drawback, especially when it comes to the "wrong" behavior of a partner in bed. What do they expect from us and how to learn to enjoy sex?

And all because we are still different. Diametrically opposite. What seems normal, sweet, cute, romantic for us, for men, can often be a cause for disappointment. And now your very fervent lover was very aggressive, suddenly irritated, upset, and his desire to bring you to orgasm is blown away like a balloon. What an orgasm, when is there such ?! And what is so-and-so? What exactly is it that makes our macho angry? Oh, there are old horrors, like "Do not Bite!", As well as quite new modern ones introduced by the changes occurring in the distribution of male and female roles in the last couple of decades.

Yes, women have become different. And this, of course, could not but affect the strong half of humanity, as well as on what happens between the sexes in bed.


That same oral ...

Every day many women ask themselves the question - how to learn to enjoy sex. According to polls, 69% of the fairer sex regularly do this - they give their men oral pleasure. It remains a mystery why this leaves out the remaining 31%, because it is difficult to meet a man who is indifferent to such caresses. They like it, we like it, and in fact sex is exactly the sphere of life where we just do that we give each other pleasure. And although a blowjob, has long ceased to be something supernatural, rarely any of the ladies can boast of the virtuosity of technology. And all because rarely any of the gentlemen at risk to voice their desires, direct and teach. For that and "pay" spoiled pleasure. To be honest, we are to blame. We have turned our nose away for so long, depicted disgust and made a frightened face, that already what women are ready for oral caresses today is perceived by men as unheard of generosity. And they are silent, tolerate, afraid to frighten away, so to speak. And with partisan interrogation after ("Well, how?", "How do you like it?") Either they are silent as guerrillas, or they are completely non-informational

"Everything was super, baby!" . Hence, there are so many "white spots" in this issue.

For certain we know only the following: you can not bite. But you can bite ... with your lips. It is desirable not to break in the process, do not dodge, in order to look into the eyes with a dumb question, "Well, that's enough?", Do not stop when a man is about to reach orgasm. From the side of the barricades, it irritates them. As for the technique itself, it is unlikely that you will need to demonstrate the highest art. But it will not be superfluous to look at the "tutorial" - a film of the corresponding genre. Ideally, along with the "guinea pig", on the way asking what he likes from what he saw. Perhaps, to tell you in person that you are doing something wrong, your loved one does not dare, and to show by the example of "an outsider aunt" - it will not be difficult. You benefit, and he is pleased.


Another burning question is "To swallow or not to swallow?". Do you do it without problems? Well, men are expecting this. Moreover, according to the teachings of tantra yoga, sperm is a real elixir of youth. You can not? If it is very important for your loved one, you will have to solve this problem. The main thing - do not snort and do not spit, it's humiliating. You can try to influence the taste of sperm by diet, if the reason is this. So, it is believed that kiwi, watermelon and pineapple will make it easier, plum and cranberries - sweet. But coffee and beer affect the taste negatively, giving sperm bitterness. One more thing: the more often you have sex, the easier it is to taste semen, with long abstinence it becomes viscous, with pronounced taste and smell.

If this also does not help, try to arrange the male organ in your mouth so that during orgasm sperm does not get on the taste buds - at the root of the tongue.


Do not talk too much

Talking during sex can and should be, but only with the man that gets it. These "audiali from erotica" are very fond when the process is accompanied by your comments. Phrases expressing your desire, obscene language, squeezed out during an orgasm in a broken voice, and even inappropriate like a cry "Mom!" Do not leave such a man indifferent, because all this is evidence that you are losing your head and it is from him. If a man pushes you to talk ("Do you feel so good?"), Say! The main thing is not to succumb to the temptation to laugh, feeling like the heroine of the vulgar romance novel. Everything that delights both of you is good and right. And if to achieve orgasm your man needs to hear that he is a "bad boy" or a sex giant, he does not care that it looks like a phrase from a bad movie.

Just do not play too much! Because men do not endure flattery and outright lies. Yes, a man wants to hear from each of his partners that he is the best lover in the world, but he will doubt your sincerity if you overdo the stick.

Well, what not to tell, it's about the fact that you were fine with someone else. How many times it was said about this, and women periodically continue to do this. And in vain!


For the time forget about your shortcomings

Scientists from the University of California conducted an experiment - it was attended by over a thousand men - during which the gentlemen were offered to evaluate photos of various women in swimsuits. So, most of the subjects voted not for the long-legged girls a la Barbie, but for the ladies of medium and dense physique, whose figures, as a rule, resembled an hourglass. And not by chance. It turns out that a thin waist and wide hips (ideally a waist to hip should be 70%) are read by men as a signal to fertility. But again, this does not mean that women with narrow hips, they do not see at close range. Another thing is true: men do not see half of what we sincerely believe to be their shortcomings. Few of them even know approximately what cellulite or a vascular setochka on legs is. But if you point to it, they can suddenly be puzzled by this and, yes, yes! - recognize your imperfection.

The question is, who needs it

Insecurity in yourself and your body often leads to the fact that a woman begins to avoid poses in sex, which, it seems to her, looks unattractive. So, many owners of a small tummy embarrassed to occupy the position of a rider, and doubters in the aesthetics of the fatty folds on the sides avoid poses when the man from behind and sees all the flaws of her back. Especially shy ladies prefer to have sex in pitch darkness, and the sex itself is reduced to a series of fast, "tested" movements and poses, which makes it boring and uninteresting. And, believe me, this is much more harmful for relationships than wrinkles on the back and stomach. If a woman is brave and uninhibited, loves her body, then the man does not notice the flaws, and if he does, he does not worry about it, because in general he is okay with this woman in bed. But stiffness and zazhatost kill the desire to the root.


Modest and very modest

Previously, men complained about the lack of initiative of women in bed, awarding the partner an offensive nickname "log". Now we have become much bolder in bed, but complaints about passivity are still present. It's not even passivity, but in some detachment, indifference, as in an anecdote, remember: "We will have sex, do not wake!". If you do not want to have sex, it's best not to do it at all, than to subject a man to humiliation by forced intimacy. After all, being asexual in bed, you seem to demonstrate to a man his inferiority in this area - he can not cause your desire. And who would like to have sex with an "indifferent body"? In this case, there is no exchange of emotions and energy, and with the same success these "simple movements" can be performed with a rubber doll.


Excessive activity

Too passive mistresses men do not like, but too active cause fear. This is the very "landmark of time" - women have changed, and where we used to give, we took, now we are actively taking. This applies not only to social life, but also to bed. What was previously considered the prerogative of a man - casual relationships, sex for one night, pleasure, at any price - is now actively used by women. And - surprisingly - the men were not ready for this. They ... feel used, objects of sexual hunting, want care and love. It's familiar, is not it? The same and in sex. Excessive activity, when a woman takes everything in her hands in bed, causes the opposite effect - it's not like it.


Not only ladies , but gentlemen also make mistakes in the bedroom. And because sex is a mutual process, the mistakes of one inevitably affect the other, spoiling all the fun of intimacy. What items did women include in their "plaintive book"?

Short foreplay. Men think that more than enough to touch a couple of times, casually touch the clitoris and you can move on to sexual intercourse. And it turns out that the man is already in the process, and the woman is not ready: she has to either "catch up with the partner on the move" or ... remain unsatisfied.


Roughness . Men at us not without reason representatives of a strong half of mankind - an emphasis on a word "strong". In the process of excitation, a man can squeeze his chest so much, and even bite a nipple, not realizing that it causes infernal pain. Dosed men's strength only increases women's arousal, but not everyone can, alas, dose it.

Comparison with other women. The man "puffs" over you, and you still can not reach orgasm, especially "gifted" can at the same time periodically ask "Well, you already?". There is a worse option, when, not seeing the proper reaction to their efforts, the man is disappointed with pulling: "It's strange, but everyone liked everything!"