Life Routine
When you are burdened with daily worries, when the head is crammed with how to make breakfast, lunch and dinner, wash, clean in the house, run to the store, pick up the child from the kindergarten or school, and even meet your favorite family members with a cheerful, cheerful smile, It is difficult to imagine a satisfied and happy mother and wife. Life routine, daily life impose a negative impact on the relationship between family members, creating quarrels and conflicts. On the other hand, perfectly punctual relationships between spouses, as well as between mother and children, remove some of the daily worries from gentle female shoulders. To be an ideal woman and mother - first of all, be yourself, but do not forget that you are a fragile woman - kind, gentle, affectionate. Everyday life and daily life, in no case, should not be the destroyer of the happiness and tranquility of a quiet family nest.
Elena, 26 years old (young mother of a one-year-old baby):
- I turned into a machine "kitchen-washing-ironing," I'm terribly tired, I walk like a zombie, from lack of sleep. The whole of my day is dedicated to the fact that I try to remake all homework while the kid is resting, and when he is awake, I spend time with him.
The situation of Elena is typical for many young mothers. Life and daily worries should not upset you, because the birth of a new life is already a great joy. To be a good mom is to rejoice at your children and be grateful that they have you. In six months after the birth of the baby you will notice that it becomes much easier, in a year you will completely wedge into a new life rhythm, and after two years, you may want to re-fill in the family. If it is very difficult, ask your husband to help with solving domestic problems. With a skilful approach, I doubt that he will be able to refuse you.
The golden mean
The golden mean, the ideal of family relations lies, first of all, in mutual understanding. Ideal relationships are not relationships without quarrels, they are relationships in which there is mutual understanding, respect, and, as a result, a common positive decision.
In order to avoid loosening the relationship due to daily minor misunderstandings, it is very important to be able to distribute family responsibilities both between husband and wife, and between children. For each member of the family, there must be a special share of family concerns and responsibilities. But the construction of this kind of relationship largely depends on the ability of women to organize and establish a "family mechanism". This is most likely not a talent, but a desire to live in love and harmony. But, for this, of course, you need to work hard. Spitfire, aggression and scandal are the destroyers of seed relationships and not the other way around.
Be weak and strong
Truth is said that a woman should be an actress in life. Imagine, let's say that you do not have the mood, the husband comes from work, and you look at him with an evil displeased look or, on the contrary, do not react at all. What can be expected in response? Men also love attention, and like all normal men, your husband will respond like that to like. Do you need this attitude to you, think for yourself. A smile and a happy look, even, perhaps, slightly mocked, can raise the mood to you. For the sake of this is sometimes to visit and actress.
On the other hand, the husband and children should know about your weaknesses, understand that you are tired, sick, or just devoted an hour or two to yourself. Having built such relationships with relatives, you will never be hurt for what you give, but you get nothing in return.
Alina, 23 years old:
- I remember how our mother during "critical days" "recovered" in bed, and we with understanding did all the homework and walked, almost on tiptoe, so as not to disturb the silence and peace of my beloved mamulka.
Is it necessary to be perfect?
Thinking about the question of how to be a good mom and wife, never try to be perfect. First of all, remain yourself. A good mother is not necessarily a good housewife, it's a mother who loves her children and cares about their well-being. A good wife is a loving and beloved wife, a faithful and reliable companion of life. With her there is something to talk about, it is always possible to get wise advice from her. Bed? A loving and beloved wife will never have a problem in intimate relationships. A beloved man is always a desirable man, he has no shortcomings - he is ideal, even if he is tired, not shaved and has not had time to take a shower.
A good mother is a reliable friend
Do not try to build relationships with children using the "carrot and stick" method. Education in fear will never lead to a sincere relationship. Your child should be sure that no matter what happens, he can always come to you and frankly talk about everything in the world, that you will not reproach him and punish him, but try to help in a difficult situation. Not friends should be the first in knowing the secrets and problems of your child, and you are a kind, loving, understanding and responsible mother. Since the birth of your children, build a trusting relationship between them and you, never deceive, then you can expect and demand this in return.
The ideal is achieved - what should I strive for?
Even if you think that you are actually a good mom and wife, it does not mean that it will always be like this. Children grow up, we change, so each time we need to adapt to the new situation in a new way. It is necessary to be able to experience family crises, the teenage period of their children, ups and downs. And you, for sure, will be able to overcome all this, without any problems you can be a good mother of your children and a wonderful wife, which means - to be a winner in the life arena! ..