A wife, absorbed in new cares about the baby, often forgets that the husband also requires attention. The husband also tries to help around the house and with the child, but his clumsy attempts remain unappreciated and more often than not it turns out that he does everything wrong. Once - not so, second time - not so, third time - not so, but for the fourth time already and the desire to help does not arise. "Why should I help, if all the same I do everything wrong, as it should?" - thinks her husband. At first, it upsets him. And then it becomes the norm.
We can not forget that before the appearance of the baby, the whole care of the wife was focused on him, and now he remained practically completely without care and affection. Do not think that it's easy for him. He, too, now has a hard time.
The wife is angry with herself: "The chump is unfeeling, no help from him you will not wait. I try for both him and the child, I forget about myself, but he does not appreciate! " And she also has her own truth.
So there comes a vicious circle. And the more anger is accumulating on each other, the more spouses retreat.
Let's think about how to avoid these problems or at least make the period as painless as possible after the birth of the child for the family.
Think about it: the fact that you have to manage with your child better than your husband, is genetically predisposed by nature. In a woman, motherhood is mortgaged, and a man needs to learn paternity. Therefore, every time you want to reproach a spouse for doing something worse than you, step on your throat to this desire! And instead of reproach ... praise! Praise your husband every time he takes the initiative to help you with the child or around the house. In the end, to learn anything, you need time. Time will pass, and the husband will learn everything that is necessary.
No matter how tired you are, and the husband remains your husband, and he needs your warmth and affection. Pay attention to it, no matter how hard it is for you. A bit of romance - and you will have the strength not to drown completely in routine cares.
When a little child grows up, it will be useful to leave it for a short while on newly appeared grandfathers and grandmothers. First, the child needs to be taught that her mother sometimes needs to leave. Secondly, you will have time to rest from the child a little and go somewhere with your spouse. Even if it is a normal half-hour walk by the arm, it will still be useful to you.
Take for yourself the rule that there is a specific case concerning the care of a child, a ritual that is always performed by the pope. For example, evening bathing or evening feeding with mush. It does not matter what it will be. It is important that it will be them, your husband and your baby, the common occupation. And you at this time do not grab for all the household chores at once, but just relax. Take care of yourself, beloved. Make a face mask, manicure, pedicure. Or just watch your favorite TV show. And thus it is not necessary to twitch and think, how there your husband: whether has made something not so? Relax. Believe me, he loves your baby as much as you do and least of all he wants to harm him.
Never forget that no matter how wonderful you are, you are, above all, a woman. Do not go down, be interesting, read books, communicate with people. Do not close only on the child! After all, your baby is most important to your mother was happy.