Pain
Some girls have serious problems in sexual life - they experience pain during intercourse. For example, a woman has a partner, they love and appreciate each other. But when the question becomes about sex, a wall arises between them. They try to have sex, but nothing comes of it. When a man begins to "enter" into the vagina, the woman experiences terrible pain. As a result, they are forced to abandon sex.
The causes of pain in sex can be different. Pain in the introduction of the penis can be caused by gynecological diseases (colpitis, adhesions and others). Pain can also be a manifestation of vaginismus. Vaginismus is understood as convulsive contractions of muscles of the pelvic floor and vagina, compression of the thighs, preventing the introduction of the penis. Vaginismus is a reflex that protects a woman from penetrating her penis. This kind of protection is formed if the sexual act causes fear.
The most frequent is the fear of pain that occurs after a rough attempt at defloration in the aggressive behavior of a partner during the first sexual encounter. Although often everything is much more complicated. After all, sexual life is surrounded by a large number of very different irrational attitudes, fears, shame, guilt. For example, an overvalued prohibition of violation of virginity and the surrounding ideas of "girlish purity." And how this "purity" of watchfulness should be led to a dual attitude towards sexual intercourse. There is an internal conflict, in which the ban collides with desire, and vaginismus can be a way out of this conflict. In another case, the woman, on the contrary, may not want sex, but have difficulties in denying the man. In this case, the body itself refuses through convulsive muscle contraction and pain. The causes of pain in sex can also be in the traumatic experiences of childhood and adolescence, ranging from sexual abuse to ridicule of any aspects of female sexuality and anatomical features. Do not forget about the abundance of various prejudices: "the penis is dirty", "the vagina is dirty", "sex is dirty". Such sentiments are still encountered.
The main causes of the pain are known - they need to be combated. We think that without a real consultation of a gynecologist, and then a sexologist or psychotherapist can not do. Definitely it is necessary to exclude or treat the physical causes of pain. If you had a mental trauma - rape, rough first sexual intercourse, you should work out these problems with a good psychotherapist or psychologist.
Resentment
You should give up sex in case of serious resentment. You understand, if a partner offends you or offends you, you can hardly enjoy it. Your thoughts, most likely, will be occupied by others. Often you can hear the thought that after a fight - the coolest sex. But this is true for very temperamental personalities. Most women (and men) can not have sex right after the quarrel. Moral resentment is not to be smoothened by physiological sensations. First make peace with your man, and then enjoy the "hugs." According to psychologists, otherwise, sex will be associated at a subconscious level with quarrels. And gradually, both partners will cease to enjoy sex.
Condom withdrawal
Often, men begin to assure a girlfriend of their honesty and decency. Do not really believe these persuasions. Especially if the partner is not permanent. According to statistics, most women and men do not even know about their illnesses. Engage in sex without contraception is only if you are a constant partner and completely trust each other.
Hygiene
If your man pays enough attention to hygiene, this is the reason to give up sex. Bad hygiene is not only a dubious smell, which easily reduces all sensations. But the real risk of the disease, the violation of the microflora of the female vagina, inflammation. About oral sex with an unsympathetic man, forget it. By the way, from all senses - sense of smell, touch, taste, hearing and sight - the most important for sex is the first.
Critical days
During menstruation, you are especially vulnerable to various infections: the cervical canal opens. This contributes to the release of blood, but the risk of infection and the development of inflammatory processes increases. Sex can only aggravate your condition. If you decide to have sex during menstruation, remember: even with a regular partner it is better to be protected. The shower before and after also has not been canceled.
Disease
Some men simply do not understand that their persistence can lead to complications. But in fact, during cystitis and thrush (even with better health), gynecologists advise women not to enter into sexual relations. Sex can lead to the spread of infections. During the treatment of sexually transmitted infections and before the results of the follow-up survey, sexual rest should be observed: either sex should be completely abandoned, or all sexual intercourse should be strictly in a condom.
From oral sex, refuse from ARVI, tonsillitis, tonsillitis, scarlet fever, and other mucous diseases. Since microbes that cause inflammation of the respiratory organs, sometimes affect the genitourinary system.
First date
According to polls of sociologists, men do not get a real adrenaline outlet when having sex with women. After all, it will not have to be won! Therefore, psychologists advise to give up sex on a first date. Do not be afraid that you will lose a man if he does not please him. On the contrary! In addition, in order to feel the real satisfaction from sex, one must understand the inner world of the partner, become closer to him spiritually.
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