Ordinary story, we marry, as a rule, by mutual and violent love, but sooner or later most marriages give a noticeable fissure, thereby developing into an intrusive family crisis. Both of you stopped, like you used to, make pleasant gifts, surprises, talk about your feelings, how you simply can not do without each other. All life around you began to be based solely on painful requests and favors. Coming every evening from work, you try, do not communicate and do not share your problems, and any even the most insignificant conversation can turn into a global scandal. You both started catching yourself in oil, that the less you see the husband, the calmer your emotional state and nerves. Otherwise, you just annoy each other. Sex, in your family, has become a distant and unreal illusion, and in other words, simply disappeared from your life. The husband blames the wife - the husband's wife and so from day to day. She has long ceased to feel protected, loved, desired and so necessary. He found himself in a similar situation. Here it is not love and complete chill from the spouses. As they say, the senses here do not smell. Here they are, one of the few, signs that the husband and wife do not love each other.
The reasons for this, in terms of psychology, very much. Also, it is worth noting that to come to such regularity in their marriage, the spouses can, as in a year of their joint life, and after five, ten years or more. Of course, on long matrimonial terms, this paradox of fading mutual feelings happens much more often than in the first stages of marriage. Let's all the same return to the reasons, because of which the love in a family between spouses most often fades away. First of all, I want to mention the fact that we ourselves forge our own happiness and, accordingly, our feelings. And, more often than not, we ourselves are destroying our love, thereby pushing our partner to surrender their positions and share your not love with you. For example, constant dissatisfaction with each other, reproaches and quarrels - these are the first "killers" of our feelings. Household problems or simply incompatibility of the characters, just play out a lot of important role. As for the latter, very often people before marriage completely and completely do not study each other, and already a joint life, with a ring on the finger, shows people quite in other colors.
Another reason is that the spouses simply studied each other from crust to crust, having lost any mutual interest. Their relationship has lost the primordial romance of feelings, emotions, experiences. And, as you know, life, without pleasant romantic moments, destroys love at its very root. In this situation, the husband and wife lose their sexual attraction to each other, trying to find themselves in other people - lovers. Here, it is worth adding. That hikes, both husband and wife to the left, very often confuse their feelings in the subconscious and the couple, as a conclusion, even for themselves can not answer the simple question: "Who does he (she) love, for the moment?". From the above, we realized that there are a lot of reasons for discontent with life together leading to no love. All these are causal, directly act as a favorable foundation for conflicts in the family, which leads to the outgrowth of such high feelings as love, into usual obsessive antipathy. And, as a conclusion, the wife and husband begin, simply not to carry each other to the spirit and live like a cat and a dog under one roof. Accordingly, life is not sweet. Of course, in order not to torture him, not himself, this problem should be solved sooner or later. If you have long and accurately made sure that you have become just strangers to each other, directly begin to act. Do not be afraid to change anything, because the further you pull this burden, the further it will be simply worse. You just, sooner or later, start hating your spouse, and he has you and until it happens, you need to do something. Living without love in one house and seeing each other every day is not an easy test for a woman or a man.
If your family has children, know how you would not try to preserve a full family for them, you will not succeed at all. It's like living on a powder keg, which any day can explode. In addition, the child, in the first place, feels psychological tension because of strained relations between parents. It is better that the child does not live in a full family, but in complete emotional rest, not listening to your quarrels and scandals. The child, when he grows up, will understand everything himself. The main thing is not to tell him who is bad and who is good. He wants to, let him talk with his father or mother, not depending on whether the parents are together or not.
Of course, in each family the situation is purely individual and it is for this, first of all, that everything should be discussed at the "family" table of negotiations. To hear a mutual opinion on this matter. And, in the end, decide if you want to continue living together for the sake of children, or the best way is to just break up. You can, of course, make a break from family life and relax from each other, having lived separately for a certain time. As practice shows, sometimes it even works. Being away from each other and alone with their thoughts, people find it easier to understand themselves and understand what they want from life in reality. Maybe it's that the couple just got bored with each other and that's why they got confused in their feelings, and then the phrase! husband and wife do not like each other "just loses relevance. And, as you know, the distance heals from any emotional ailments. If you see that the family is completely collapsing and you can not restore it in any way, then there is only one way out - a divorce. Release yourself and him to the will to a new love.