Untouched by lust or endowed with chastity? To male virginity, you can safely attribute both of these concepts. Indeed, today such a notion as "male virginity" does not have an exact definition, however, with the advent of some alternative forms of sexuality, it is difficult to say who is more experienced in sex - a man who already had a common connection with a woman or someone who is familiar with all " non-contact "ways of eliminating sexual tension. About what is a sexless man and how to behave properly with a virgin and will be discussed below.
Female virginity is synonymous with purity and can make you cry with excitement. Male virginity, however, even in lectures about sex, intended for young people, doctors do not pay due attention. Everything is limited only to recommendations regarding contraception. On the Internet, you can often find offers of services from virgins, men, but girls-virgins are still more expensive. Male virginity is not appreciated, it is even blamed and mocked. Therefore, young people who do not know sex, feel incomplete, trying to quickly get rid of their "ballast."
If you are faced with a guy or a man for whom before sex you had sex only in the wildest fantasies and pleasant dreams, then you must remember - for such people, the first time is of special importance. And without a hint of irony prepare for both small disappointments and a great overall victory.
It's good that now in our relatively democratic world of information people are perfectly aware of all the subtleties of this process. So it's unlikely you have to ask your virgin guy uncomfortable questions and lectures on sexology. But one thing is theory, and quite another is practice, whose success depends on a man's mental health. And even if you know everything about pistils and stamens, the process of "pollination" can be difficult for you.
By the way ...
In the Netherlands there is a school that helps men to say goodbye to their virginity. First they study in theory a naked female body. And only when a man can calmly and admiringly contemplate the beauty of a partner and without disgust enjoying his own reflection in the mirror - then there is a transition to practice. Usually this happens by itself, and sometimes under the supervision of specialists.
There are several types of virgins. Having determined which type of "caught" you, you will know how to behave properly with this man.
A virgin with a capital letter "D"
This is a classic type of boy who has not known sex. He has every right to be called such in terms of his age. Usually these are boys aged 15-18, whose goal is to get rid of their "shortage" as soon as possible in order to be able to feel like an adult. This is a kind of barrier that separates the boy from yesterday and the man from the near tomorrow.
Virgins of this type relate to sex easily. They usually know what to do, although a certain shyness is still present. True, not for long. At this type to the boy it is not necessary to search for the right approach - in any case you will give him what he wants. After all, its main goal is to get rid of virginity. The only rule is not to hold it. Although, of course, it would be nice if your act of losing virginity became not only a matter of technique, but also a real lesson of love.
A virgin from the "other world"
It's a romantic nature, a man who, in his own way, is proud of his virginity, as something very rare and valuable. His virginity is wealth meant only for the most special woman. Such people do not accept this condition as a defect, but rather as a dignity. Indeed, like most girls, they dream of the first sex on silk bed linens to the sounds of classical music.
If you have become this special girl, worthy of such a treasure - do not bother. Just enjoy the atmosphere that your beloved virgin will create for you. He had thought of everything for a long time, he endured the script of this night for many years. Relax and relax in the hands of an experienced writer who invented this scene in his heart and knows exactly how things should be. Try to control your passions and desires - this is his night and he will decide what lessons he needs. The main thing that he chose you, and this in the case of a similar type of men, is worth a lot.
Adult virgin
For one reason or another, he remained untouched, he never let anyone close to him. Due to whether innate shyness or education, unattractive appearance or other life priorities - all this ultimately led to the big boy making a big complex. A virgin of this type is a miserable sight.
Before you explain to such a man all the delights of sexual life, you must once and for all rid him of fears and crush his complex "lame duck". This, by the way, is very difficult. Most importantly, show him that you are completely indifferent to his status as a virgin, that it does not excite, does not irritate or scare you. Try to calm him down - he is very worried and worried. Say that now you are together, and this will finally happen. Each time, just someone this happened a little later ... And it's better to talk less, but just do it. He will be grateful to you for the rest of his days.
A virgin with a big defect
Or a little man's dignity. Or worse - with an inborn trauma or loss of attraction due to medical intervention. The experience of small surgery in childhood has now become an inferiority complex. Alas, sometimes it is impossible to avoid injuries, surgeries, prolonged treatment, after which people for a long time can not do this, and sometimes they can not. But most often they are all right, they are simply afraid of failure, that's why they do not try to start a sexual life - is it not enough that ... The complex of such a virgin (often with the help of a doctor) turns into a diagnosis - I'm really sick, and that's forever.
As a rule, real macho men are not afraid of physical pain, but not when it comes to their most intimate places. Pain can be used for such men as an obstacle to sex. What kind of pleasure is there when it comes to grinding teeth with pain? And even if this pain - in the distant past, a man will not just cope with fear. But this does not mean that he does not want sex.
If you really want affinity with such a man - be delicate. Do not rush, do not drive and do not teach it. If he has entrusted you with the most intimate secrets, you just need to justify this trust. Tell him that there is no reason to worry that you will not hurt him, that you love him, at last. He will be immensely grateful for your understanding and patience. Is it important for you to be with this person? Let him feel it!
A virgin with rich experience
In this case, it is something like a "half-deed". This is a man with a ballast of a sad past experience. It is unclear what happened on that fateful night, but they did not work with the previous partner. He swore that he would never again ... And, judging because he is with you now, he did not keep his word. This person will avoid all means of your "attack" on his flesh. This can continue until he is convinced that you are ready to accept him as he is - imperfect, rejected and humiliated once. He must be sure that, in case of failure, you will not nag him endlessly or wipe his nose. Your task is to convince him of your loyalty and readiness to be with him to the end in any situation. Without a doubt - the victorious end. And you yourself must also believe in it!
When you are lucky enough to "run into" a virgin, you will undoubtedly receive the best lessons of sensuality, tenderness and feel the sincere gratitude of your lover. Helping him to overcome his fears, pain, uncertainty, you will prove that you are ready to become not just another stage, but also a loyal friend, a partner you can rely on. However, no doubt, the loss of virginity is a severe test for a man. Consider this before becoming a guide to the world of sex. Experienced and intelligent woman always behaves correctly - a virgin will become a man with pleasure, with gratitude and will give her nights of love and passion as many times as she wants.