Every girl dreams of pure, bright and sincere love. All our lives we are fed with fairy tales about a prince on a white horse, a noble knight and will-forcibly in the head is a certain image of the chosen one. And now, it would seem, you have found that unique and unique, which will be cherished and cherished throughout life, and then bam! And he runs after the flashed skirt. Alas, dear girls, the world is full of such men, ready to change the next minute of dating. They constitute, so-called, the category of womanizer. What, they represent themselves and whether it is possible to re-educate a womanizer in monogamy, we try to tell in this article.
Genes are a serious thing.
Sadly, they exist. In general, not figuring out, you can call all men a womanizer. As they say, you can not trample on nature. They themselves cover up their amorous affairs, they say, genes - a serious thing. Although, there are, so to speak, inveterate ladies' men who, well, do not give in to education. About them and will be discussed.
Psychologists argue that ladies' women grow out of mama's sons, brought up without a father. Mother constantly intimidated and tyrannized the poor child, repeating that without her attention and advice, she would not achieve anything in life. After growing up, he tries to get rid of mama's care, but nothing good comes out of this. "Sonny" can not solve household issues, and very often builds relationships with a woman much older than him, thus believing that he has freed himself from the influence of his mother. In the depths of his soul, he is afraid that this woman will control him like a mother, but, in fact, he is simply not fit for anything else.
Women's women are not born, but simply become.
However, there is such a position. There are several reasons for this.
First, low self-esteem. At first glance, it seems that the womanizer is self-assured, that he recognizes his own irresistibility and believes that everyone should bow down and fall down in front of him. However, everything is pretty sad. Being complex, with low self-esteem, a womanizer needs constant confirmation of his own importance, he needs proofs, in the form of conquered women, that he is the best. Permanent doping, in the form of female attention. Re-educate a womanizer is more difficult.
Secondly, the overabundance of female attention. Here we ourselves are to blame. Surrounding men with excessive care and attention from an early age, we leave them no choice and they themselves begin to believe in their own irresistibility. From this they spoil the character and then, they are just doomed to become a womanizer. Conclusion - everything is good in moderation.
A peculiar classification of womanizer.
The first group is made up of women who are lucky and active. They are able to make a woman happy, true, for a short while, simply speaking - Casanova.
The second category are modest ladies' men. They are given to flirting and courtship only in dreams.
The third group includes lazy women's ladies who do not make special efforts to win a woman, taking what is easier given.
And, finally, the fourth kind of womanizer is active, unsuccessful. He takes the initiative, seems to be good-looking, but because of some negative character traits he is not popular with women.
So, how can you save yourself from women's women? How to protect your fragile heart?
First, give yourself an installation: "Do not fall for anything." Love is a sticky thing, it's very difficult to get rid of it, and communication with a womanizer will bring nothing but suffering. To re-educate such a man in a monogram is not your goal.
Secondly, do not take it as a man, that is, do not try to flirt with him, seduce. Some girls are very difficult to resist, because it is developed at the level of reflex. Do not let him know that you consider him steep and irresistible. But do not overdo it! To humiliate and trample in the mud is also not necessary.
Third, try to make friends with him.
And remember: until you perceive him as a man, he does not pose a serious threat.
Behave with him uninhibited. Do stupid things together, discuss his former, build plans to conquer his new victims. Then he will relax and will not "glue" you. Try to become his friend, because friends are same girls with gays. And you make friends with a womanizer. Inside, he can be a good, interesting person. Appearance is just a mask with which he breaks hearts to ladies.
If you want to re-educate him, you are in for a lot of trouble. Who wants to part with the image of the conqueror of women's hearts? For the most part, all this is just a defense, and inside it is a sensitive, vulnerable young man, hooded by his mother in his childhood, who is afraid of responsibility. And the phrase: "I'm not created for a serious relationship" is just an excuse, a way to cover up your cowardice before something serious and unknown. Therefore, before trying to turn a womanizer into a monogamy, think carefully: "Do you need this?".