One of my friends once advised: a frustrated man must be fed and pressed to his chest. The council is simple, but very effective.
Action number of times: feed.
Supper should already be ready for the arrival of a loved one from work. Food should look appetizing, be calorie and tasty. My eastern education suggests that dinner should necessarily include soup, a piece of meat and something sweet for tea. And this should be always, regardless of whether the man is upset or not. "I'm not a cook!" - you can exclaim. Of course not, you are an intelligent loving woman, and a delicious dinner is already half in such an easy matter as the comfort of a beloved man. We all remember this wonderful saying: the way to the heart of a man lies through the stomach.
The man stands up from the table and proudly carries his stuffed stomach towards the sofa. No, he has not calmed down yet, it's just that he needs to get involved. Perhaps he will watch TV, or play one of the computer games, or go to the garage to fix his favorite car (or drink with neighbors). Do not touch him. Leave the frustrated man alone with him. He must experience what happened. He will consider the situation, take the only right decision and, perhaps, even calm down. Understand, he does not have the same kind of psychology as you. If a frustrated woman goes after advice to her friends and pours on their heads a tub of their problems, the frustrated man first thinks about everything himself. He does not need any advice from friends, nor your advice.
Action number two: squeeze to chest.
So, never! Do you hear? NOR-KOG-DA do not start asking him about the reasons that made him upset. Wants - he will tell himself. If you start to "crawl under your fingernails," you'll only make him angrier. Try to distract him with something, tell me how your day went, what happened to your mutual friends, talk about politics, weather, sports, about anything! If only it could be distracted! But, be careful, do not overdo it, please, do not tire out the poor man. Senseless chatter can bring a loved one to a migraine. Be sensitive to him, try to adjust to his mood.
It is likely that with some conversations you will not distract him by helping. Then take it under the mouse and drag it to fresh air. It is also possible a variant: cinema, theater, shop. But it's dangerous. When a man is ill, he may simply not like it. Therefore, we choose the option of walking in the park. Maybe fresh evening air will wipe out bad thoughts.
And when you come home, prepare a fragrant bath for a frustrated man (the bath is not just feminine, believe), do a relaxing massage for him, and ... who knows when this night will end ...
And finally. Lovely ladies, men know how to be thankful. In the morning, my beloved, who was already so bad yesterday, will prepare breakfast for you himself, and by the evening he will arrange for you some kind of surprise.
Remember, to love is work, it is even more difficult to create a real family home in the home, where the loved one will return every evening with the knowledge that they will calm him down when he is unwell.