So, where do you start in the first place? First of all, it is necessary to understand that only we are responsible for our fears, experiences, thoughts and emotions. Each person is able to make a choice - whether to be angry with him or not, crying or laughing, scolding or praising. After all, all our experiences are caused not by the events themselves, but by our attitude towards them. Every moment around us something happens but our will. And only in our power to perceive these events as we would like. Conflict with the boss or employee, rain on the street, an increase in salary - the attitude to each of these events (do not react or react in another way) we choose ourselves. Having paid very little attention to control over your feelings, you will get an amazing result! You will become calmer, more focused and with pleasure start your further perfection - improving the art of communication and you can earn respect.
Communication is not only what we say in words, but also looks, gestures, and touches. In other words, the body language. Try to ensure that such simple greeting phrases as "Good Day", "Hello", "Hello" sounded really kindly, pronounced with a smile, accompanied by a calm and balanced look, perhaps with a friendly hand shake. Then those to whom these words are addressed will receive not only them, but also your positive non-verbal information.
If you want to impress the business and responsible person, you should look dignified, collected, energetic . Any of your gestures should be smooth, but strong, and most importantly - they must accurately reflect those emotions that you need at this particular time. Listen to how your voice sounds? He should be calm, confident, pleasant. Not the last meaning is your signature. A clear signature attracts attention and undoubtedly causes respect. All this refers to the external manifestations of your individuality. But what if someone is before you who does not quite correspond to the description of a business person?
Many psychologists advise in communicating with such people to imagine them mentally in a more comfortable environment for them. For example, if your boss is angry, annoyed and indignant, take a good look and pity him. After all, he can be completely unhappy, but has to solve all sorts of difficult questions. Perhaps, in addition to this, he still has some personal problems. Imagine it on vacation, on the sea, quietly resting and peaceful. Then your non-verbal state will gradually be transferred to him, reducing the conflict situation to nothing. Applying such simple tricks, you will notice that more often people tell you about how comfortable they are in your presence.
There are a number of recommendations, which you will confidently go not only on the steps of the career ladder, but also succeed in communicating on a personal front.
In the process of communication, try not to argue unnecessarily and do not be categorical. All people tend to make mistakes, including you. Do you forgive yourself your own mistakes? So why not ask them to others? It is so simple. In return, you will get much more!
Do not take offense at the comments and assessments of others , treat them like a change in the weather. You do not take offense in the sun or rain? Do the same in a relationship - consider them, but do not become dependent on them. Uncover your "umbrella" and boldly go further on your business in "any weather".
Let others be different. There's no point scolding a brunette or a blonde for the color of her hair. Similarly, it makes no sense to criticize a person for having a different attitude to life. Accept people as they are. Replace your negative attitude, if any, for interest. All unusual is always interesting! Get interested in this person, perhaps, after learning about it something new, you will understand that this person is not so bad as you thought at the beginning.
Be responsible and attentive to your work , whatever it is. After all, you chose it. Let the leadership and colleagues not have the slightest doubt in your desire to work. Do not worry about this, like asking a colleague for advice or help. It is better to ask and do than not to ask and leave the work unfulfilled or not meet the deadline.
If you are free at the moment - help your colleagues . Do not doubt, they will appreciate your aspirations. But do not let yourself be overloaded, perhaps, next to you are those who want to "ride for someone else's account."
Observe corporate ethics and corporate style , if it is adopted in your organization. After all, you should not spoil your mood and perhaps your future career only because of the shape of shoes or other trifles. Around you there are many different places where you can look exactly as you want.
And, probably, one of the simplest and at the same time the most difficult recommendations - be honest . In front of you and before those whom life turns have put on the road near you.
It's worth remembering that your reputation is one of the most expensive and probably the most profitable things. To earn it, you need to spend more than one day. But, already received, it will keep you on the crest of a wave of luck for many years. Love yourself, appreciate the effort and take care of your reputation, because now you know how to earn the most important thing in the team - respect.