Laziness is the most wonderful quality of a person. Without laziness, there would not be important discoveries, progress. The indolent person would still be getting water from the well or went to the river for a couple of kilometers from home. So whether to force yourself to fight with laziness, or leave it as it is - is a very serious matter.
"The engine of progress", however, often gives us a lot of discomfort. A woman who is not groomed loses attraction in the eyes of not only her husband, but also those around her. And laziness, which makes us afraid to do something, directly urgently requires active intervention - but how to force ourselves to fight, do something?
The most important thing that you should remember during the "war" with laziness - do not include in it, please, others. It is very easy, by the method of "Distances" and other psychological trainings and programs, to declare someone as their "curator" and to assign to him the responsibility for regular kicking. But it's also very simple to get angry with this person who prevents you from living peacefully.
It is always difficult to begin. Every beginning requires significant infusions of strength and time. But they pay off as they move forward in the matter.
Do you want to learn how to dance?
No problem!
- Call up the nearest clubs.
- Choose the direction of dance and teacher.
- Go and get acquainted with the situation on the spot ...
- Buy a form, allocate time, agree on who these days will sit with the child ...
And only then you finally make the first step. The first trip to the hall. First lesson.
Already drawn in, it's easier to continue doing something than to quit. How, it is necessary to explain to the dearest husband, to the trainer, to the girlfriend and still pair-three people why you do not go to dances any more. Therefore, to force yourself to fight with laziness is very simple - you just need to close your eyes tight and take the first step! Behind him is the second. And the third will already be as natural as inhaling and exhaling.
Laziness is a constructive feeling. It protects us from unnecessary waste of energy. Is it not true, to go to the store on a day off, in a fierce cold, a blizzard or rain is much more difficult than dropping into a grocery after work. Because for the first and second case requires a different amount of effort.
We are reconciled with the "pyramid of needs"
Also, think about motivation. Successfully to force itself to struggle with laziness can only that person who has an occasion to put efforts. Motivation is based on needs. And they, according to the Maslow Pyramid, are several levels, from survival (basic) to the realization of one's destiny (the latter). By the way, social success, promotion on the career ladder, financial improvements (earning more than the level of survival) lie somewhere in the middle.
And the last remark about laziness - to force oneself to fight for mythical blessings (which you do not see and do not feel, which are not important to you) is very difficult. Therefore, in some cases it is easier to reduce everything to survival. If you are such a person - well, increase your basic needs. Not a banal jacket "Chinese consumer goods" - but certainly a fur coat. To physically uncomfortable was without this very coat to go out. And then the forces to get it (the "male" way - to earn, or "female" - to solicit) will be nemeryanno.
And you do not remember laziness at this moment.
What if the councils "do not work"?
If your laziness is all-embracing, like a gray reinforced concrete wall - think about whether it's too lazy. Perhaps, these are some essential needs that require their implementation. Perhaps these are unsolved protracted conflicts when you are not sure of tomorrow. Perhaps, if you invest your efforts - this is not likely to pay off with a high probability. Who should evaluate your dancing skills? If you are hoping for an appreciation of others who do not care about your skills, then there will be no desire to make your dream come true.
So try to move the point of motivation inside yourself. In order to lose weight - for her own sake, and not for the sake of her husband (who notices the difference only when wearing a gas mask). If you study computer programs - then for the joy of communication, and not for the respect of your children. To be a mistress, it's great to receive guests - again, for yourself. Because counting on the support of others, you can get it or not in the form or the wrong quality. And when the beloved says that you have lost weight, but "still fat on the thighs, try harder" will certainly want to exclaim: "Who are the judges?". And after that - go into a deaf defense.
Distinguish laziness and other features of your motivation