Derive the formula for success
It is difficult to believe in the existence of ready-made recipes for happiness. But I really want to. Probably, therefore, I was enthusiastic for training positive thinking in the training center "City Klass". The advertising announcement promised: "A person using a positive personal strategy can not only solve their problems and succeed in their personal lives, but also reach the top in any business that is professionally engaged." Those wishing to "get to the point" in the spacious classroom were gathered exactly ten exclusively girls. "We are really waiting for matriarchy," comments the lack of a strong-sex coach, a short professor with the unflappable look of the butler of Barrymore. Men completely ceased to engage in self-development. " And, sighing, he puzzles the assembled questions: "What is success? What is a concentrated positive? "" I do not know what success is, but I know what a successful person looks like. This is my boss, "- answers Natasha, an employee of a large law firm. "Yes, I would also not refused to sit in the chair of my boss," - supports its accountant Irina. Only one of the listeners, a thirty-five-year-old managing beauty salon Marina, shyly says that a good career is not all. In her opinion, a woman can not feel successful if her personal life is adjusted. The coach nods, and we proceed to develop a formula for success that will teach us a positive outlook on everything, even on trouble. All you need to do is remember and write down the moments when fortune showered us with favors: winning a school Olympiad, a brilliant defense of a diploma or just acquaintance with an interesting and necessary person will do just fine. "Now let's analyze each case," our guru suggests. For this, an example of success must be decomposed into components: what circumstances, actions and actions allowed to catch luck by the tail. And, of course, do not forget to write what personal qualities had to be shown then. After analyzing five or six success cases, it becomes clear that what we are accustomed to think of as a fortunate coincidence is in fact the fruit of our efforts, often unconscious.
"Is there an insanity? Then write down your own positive formula immediately, "the professor recommends. At me it turned out this: positive = openness to the new + diligence + sociability? "The components of the formula are whales, on which future victories should be based," the professor says. In his opinion, the formula saves time spent on achieving the goal, and shows the development of what character traits should be paid attention. To increase the persuasiveness of the coach tells us a case from his practice: "I had a client who spent a lot of time creating the" right "image, completely forgetting that her skate is an innate wit. As soon as I helped her to realize this, and she started developing communication skills, the failures ended. "
• Summary. The three-hour training was not in vain: an excursion into one's past successes markedly increased self-esteem. Participants admire the formulas they have just received for their own success. True, the very formulas are very similar to each other and even more to the trivial truth: "Patience and work all ..."
• Personal experience. The next day, the head instructed me to a very difficult matter, and at first I was upset. But then I remembered my formula for success, I tuned myself to a positive and looked at the problem in a completely new way. She turned from an obstacle into a springboard: -
Find a new reference point
After a busy day, did you ever come home with the feeling that all of you literally sucked all the energy? "The attorney asked the trainer a pretty, short middle-aged blonde. The audience, consisting of seven representatives of the beautiful half of humanity, shyly shakes her head. It is timid, because from the lecturer there comes a frightening force of a wave of confidence and indignation that someone else lives without applying the effective life strategies offered by the training center Aspiration to Perfection. "Do you want to have a sense of inner strength and direct it to achieve the desired results? Everyone is able to create the conditions that he wants and deserves, "the psychologist continues to broadcast and suggests that the audience choose a new starting point for their life. First of all, the mentor advises to leave behind the stern past experience, even if it had good moments. "But I always remember my past victories, and it helps me to reach new heights," she shakes her head, a lady named Tamara, a lady of much Balzacian age with a youthful haircut, Tamara tells that she recently realized her dream of life - she opened her own massage parlor , and now he wants to do a training center with a breech. "How much time do you plan to spend to realize your goal?" Asks her coach. Tamara shrugs her shoulders: "Not less than two years." The teacher smiles smugly: "We have just been shown the braking power of past experience. After all, the training center Tamara can open in a month. But she herself programmed herself for a relatively long time. And all because he remembers a lot of delays and unforeseen circumstances, which faced, opening the salon. But who said that they will surely be? "Coach explains that all our lives we are only doing what we create behaviors, focusing on what was. L you have to start every day with a clean slate. "Starting any business, tell yourself: the starting point is me, at this particular moment in this particular place," says the preceptor. According to her, this approach is applicable to all spheres of life. And to personal including. "Happiness is sometimes only one step, not one thousand," the coach continues and gives the listeners an assignment to review all the internal terms of execution conceived without reliance on past experience. This is the only way to get rid of the negativity accumulated over the past years, and to appreciate your strength positively.
Learn to communicate
Naturally, people who can communicate better than others are usually more successful, they do not know either the uncertainty or the melancholy, the coach continues. Effective communication is the key to a 100% positive in all spheres of life. "Just keep in mind that under the word" communicate "I do not in any way mean" talking ", the teacher warns. Some speak well, but communicate disgustingly. We are introduced to figures and: actually words, their content is only 1/6 of the total volume of communication. And weight is what is called nonverbal: gestures, smiles, tone of voice, inclination of the head, - as many as 5/6. Then we are shown techniques that allow this very nonverbal to be monitored and controlled. It is necessary to notice the smallest signs of the behavior of the interlocutor: the inclination of the head, the twitching of the eyelids, the use of certain words. Then, as much as possible enter into the world of another person, become like him, get into his state. After this, the interlocutor begins to experience a very high level of trust to you, your communication becomes more intimate, - the trainer says. Thus, you are turning even an enemy into a friend. Is this not a reason for a positive outlook on life