People like it when they get it. But often because of lack of courage and self-confidence, people miss opportunities, they are afraid to say anything. There is a feeling of discontent with yourself, dissatisfaction with your life. This situation is difficult to fix, but you can. How to feel confident in life, read on and start doing it right now!
Start with Appearance
Of course, self-confidence begins in the head. But it is better to back it up externally. Approach the mirror, what can be seen? The shoulders are straightened, the head is lifted, the stomach is drawn in, and the legs are not bent at the knees. No? Then you need to straighten yourself into three accounts. One - shoulders forward so that the back is rounded. Two - lift them up, as if you shake. Three - take your shoulders back as far as possible and lower them. And in the mirror another person is reflected. The head is raised, the chest is forward, the stomach is not sticking out, the legs are even. And immediately you feel more confident. Of course, you will have to watch your posture and not allow yourself to "hump." This is not a simple task, but you can go for such sacrifices for yourself.
Behind the posture follows the gait. To feel confident, you need to straighten up on the street, straighten your shoulders, raise your head. With your head down, you should not walk at all. This not only gives a dull person, but also hurts the appearance. On the neck there are wrinkles, from which it is difficult to get rid of, and the chin is deformed, because of what the second and third can appear. Having taken a correct posture, watch your step so as not to "clumsy", do not "shirk" and do not particularly wave your hands while walking. If you wear shoes with heels, you need to be careful not to walk on your half-bent legs. Of course, it happens, you'll get very tired, and on high heels it's harder to walk all day. Then it is better to choose in favor of shoes at low speed, because a girl who goes like a duck is a very funny and at the same time a miserable sight.
In life there are no trifles to feel confident, you need to look confident. Even when you just sit. Sitting straight, free, not leaning on the table - it would seem that it can be easier. But most of us are not used to sitting like that. Therefore, you need to practice at home, watching TV or talking on the phone. Gradually the habit of sitting exactly and beautifully will be developed, but at first self-control is still necessary.
You feel confident in your life if you look good. A well-groomed woman is always beautiful. Never allow dirty clothes, unpleasant odors, or unwashed nails. When you have a view of the whole hundred, then you feel self-confidence, and the people around you also notice this.
Take on the inner world
When we have established external confidence, we turn to the inner one. Of course, you can do the opposite, but the moral mood can last for a long time. And when already half the battle is ready, then it's easier to act.
Voice is a very important tool in our life. In normal situations, it should sound calm and confident. Very often in shops or restaurants you can meet people who, as if afraid and apologizing, talk to the attendants. In the same way, we then communicate with colleagues, customers, neighbors. Therefore, it is very important to speak confidently and feel in life. You can practice again in shops or restaurants. Asking the seller in the store, or making an order in the restaurant, watch your voice. He should not tremble and be too quiet, the tone should be sure. In the end, you are the client and the owner of the situation, you have no one to be afraid of and have nothing to apologize for. Again, having developed a habit, in due course you will be able to communicate with everyone equally easily.
To feel confident in life, it is important to have a large circle of acquaintances. And for them to appear, you need to learn the skills of communication. The first thing you need to do is to learn how to keep the conversation going. Very often in an unfamiliar company, or even surrounded by colleagues or classmates, we can behave in a closed way and remain silent all the time. Usually such people become invisible over time, they stop noticing. Therefore, you should always try to keep the conversation going. We already have a confident posture, a neat appearance, we can speak in a normal voice. So do not be embarrassed by other people. Most likely, they are shy of not less than yours, just learned to mask it. You need to enter into conversations without fear of chattering something that is not right. In any case, the experience of communication not only with relatives will add self-confidence, and help to better find a common language with other people. And any statement can always be translated into a joke.
And, most importantly, do not forget to praise yourselves. Everybody knows the method of auto-training, when a person tries to persuade himself to change with the help of affectionate words and approval. Praise from strangers is not always obtained when you want. People are often busy with themselves, they do not have time to allocate someone else from the crowd. But you have a person who closely monitors your successes and victories, you yourself. Thanks to working on yourself, you can achieve a lot. Praise yourself first, and the rest will certainly notice a change for the better and also start to admire an interesting and self-assured woman - you!