Suddenly, like boiling water on his bare hand: "I do not want to live with you, I'm tired of everything ..." The husband wants to leave. Logically, several types of women's response behavior:
- Panic: what will I do completely alone?
- Anger: I gave you my best years.
- Action from the opposite: Well, go wherever you want, I do not care.
Of course, the main question arises: "Why?". Why does he leave? Why is this happening to me? Why did not I listen (or listen) to my mother and marry him at all? Why did he stop loving me, but suddenly he did not like me at all? The chaos of questions, unexplained grievances and, most importantly, the ugly unnaturalness of what is happening leave the main reason for the disagreement of family relations unclear. This reason, of course, in each family and its own it does not immediately, but accumulates on the letters, according to the words or their absence, actions or omissions.
If the husband leaves not to another (another simply is not present), if he leaves not because of that you have another (as it too is not present), possibilities to save your world to become more.
Men, as a strong sex, by their definition, invariably must show steadfastness and judgment in everything, soberly assessing the situation and not screaming, seeing a fat, nasty cockroach crawling out from under the kitchen sink, but silently and methodically slamming the parasite with a tap. Over the years we have been accustomed to waiting for unequivocal and balanced decisions from our husbands, it is so easy and pleasant to relieve ourselves of responsibility and, for three hours doubting what dress to put on (no matter where), rely on a firm man's decision (and at the last minute to change clothes). About the choice of an apartment, car, bank for the contribution of capital is no longer said.
And did you know that an ordinary scream and a child's screaming is capable of taking a man out of balance within five to ten minutes and jeopardizing his ability to soberly assess the situation. For most men, the desire to leave the family is inspired by his own wife. His emotional sphere is much more feminine, because we are capable of puffing, screaming, stomping with feet, so just saying a friend and everything is all right again. A man must in himself keep his experiences and will not deliberately cause himself emotional harm in the form of a rupture of long-established productive relations.
You heard: "I do not want to live with you." After the hurricanes of feelings, desires (let's hit or push) subsided, be alone. You need to understand first of all whether you can come home and not wait for it, explain to the children every day where Papa and when he comes, do not iron his shirts and wash his panties, do not feel him in the next room lying on the couch, not hear at night the buzz of a computer.
Your desire, cleansed of grievances and grievances, multiplied by affection, and maybe even calmed down love will tell you how to talk and understand your husband, and you need to talk without threats, and tears and curses. After all, so much lived together, so many days of birth and New Year's nights, but little of what! Look at your home movies, photos, remember how you felt good together and to children, after they were born. All life, with its small rules, everyday monotony, leaves a touch on your perception of each other, so "clean" - go somewhere, go together.
And remember, there is no one on earth like you, you are unique and unique, let him know about it.