How to forget a lover and break all relations with him? No, I can not, I can not. So many girls think, who still feel feelings for the once-second half.
You love him, but you must forget. The reasons can be different. For example, his feelings for you faded away. Or maybe you understand that he is not the hero of your novel for any reason. Or he is married, and you decided to break this vicious circle, and to be more precise, a triangle. And maybe you can not be together for some reason of insuperable force. The fact remains that you must throw it out of your life and out of your head and live on.
No matter how bitter it was, you should remember that life does not end there, and the light did not come together with a wedge. Many pass through a painful parting. As they say, time heals. In moments of heartache, it seems that you will never forget him, and nothing can alleviate your suffering. But this is not so.
Of course, there is no such recipe that could instantly save you from mental trauma, but there are ways to alleviate this difficult period.
First, if the former was the initiator of your gap, try to internally forgive him and let him go, no matter how difficult it seemed. It will ease your soul. Try to express your aggression and insult on paper - write him a letter, but do not send it. In this letter, blame him, tell us about your pain, write about everything that was bad in your relationship and in it.
Resign with parting. If you want to forget the former, do not keep in mind the hope that he will return and everything will be as before. You can give vent to feelings and cry, but not for long - do not let sadness and depression cover you with your head.
Break up with the former. If you still have some unresolved issues, solve them sooner. After that, you can stop talking with him. At least until your sore wound is healed. Do not call or write to him. If it's hard for you to resist this temptation, remove his contacts. "Stay friends" will not work, at least not yet.
Get rid of everything that can remind him of: gifts, photos, letters and stuff. If you can not throw it out, then pack everything in a box and hide it away so that all these little things do not catch your eye and do not take your wound.
Do not wear things that he liked, and that remind him of it. Try to avoid your favorite places. Try not to communicate temporarily with people who associate you with you or remind you of him.
In no case do not have sex with the former, try to avoid meeting with him, leave the thought of revenge and do not do anything stupid. It can have bad consequences for you.
Take it away in the apartment, do a reshuffle, throw out all that is superfluous. Free your place in your apartment and in your life. If you feel bad, you can start repairs.
Call your friends and arrange your spiritual gatherings. Wash stones for men. Let your friends frankly tell you what they think about your ex. Just do not get discouraged. You can drink a bottle of wine, but do not get drunk, because the main goal of this hen party is to get friendly support and cheer up.
Do not stay at home, walk, talk with friends, go to the movies, go to a cafe, go to a skating rink, go to a club, etc .. Think of a hobby. At home do not get angry, and do your favorite things, read good books, watch comedies, play computer games, and the like.
Change the image. Do a new haircut or change your hair color. Arrange shopping, buy yourself something new from clothes and cosmetics. Do sports, preferably in the gym, and not at home, tk. Group exercises are more effective for raising the mood. The kind of sport is not important, it is important that along with you you leave negative, and you were tired and happy. Make an emphasis on work or study. It will help to distract, and can even become a push for your career growth.
Meet new people, communicate, flirt, cheerleaders. Not all men are the same. But do not compare everyone with your ex. He is a passed stage, and somewhere ahead of you is a real feeling, the main thing is not to miss it.
You can go somewhere to rest. Choose something in accordance with your interests and material possibilities. Changing the situation will be a good therapy.
If you have a child, pay more time and attention to it. Go to the cinema, zoo, circus, amusement park, etc., to distract yourself and have fun.
Find something positive in your parting, such, for sure, there.
Spoil yourself in many ways. Take a relaxing bath with foam and essential oil, go to massage, beauty salon, etc. Do whatever pleases you, distract yourself from sad thoughts.
Following these tips, you will easily survive the separation and quickly forget the former love.
And what to do, if this is a burden for you? How to break them? You, most likely, want everything to go smoothly, calmly and civilized, but not the fact that it will be so. It depends on the reaction of your partner.
There are several basic ways to part.
The first way is to pause the relationship. Choose a neutral moment and say something like: "We were struck by strong feelings, I'm even scared. Everything is too strong, bright and difficult. I need time to figure it out. Let's take a break. " After the break is good, you can tighten it as long as it takes, for example, forever.
Another way is to do everything possible so that the partner himself will leave you. You need to terrorize it, get it, do small things, pretend to be a jealous fury, it all depends on your imagination. Motay a man's nerves, elegantly mock him, insult him, ridicule his sexual abilities, irritate him with his behavior, make scandals about and without, do stupid things, disgrace him before friends, bother, come up with various reasons for quarrel, stop dealing with him sex, etc., until the man does not burst patience. Funny way, requiring time and imagination.
The next way - parting "in English." Dishonest way, but effective. Avoid it in any way, do not answer his calls, letters, messages, etc. If he still gets through, tell him something like: "I'm very busy, I have a lot of work. I'll call you back. " And do not call. Soon the man will understand everything. And even if he finds you and requires explanations, it will not be so hard, he has already understood everything and is ready for the worst.
And one more way , the most difficult, but also noble, is to say it all right. Here, you may have to muster the courage, think through speech. Most likely, there will be a difficult conversation, and not everything will go smoothly. But over time, when a person calms down, he will understand that he was treated fairly and treated him with respect.
Now you know how to forget your lover and break all relationships with him. Love and be loved!