As a result, a young woman who expects to pay attention or at least to have an elementary communication with her half, is forced to settle for those crumbs of strength that a husband can spend on her to death after her exhausting work. He, in turn, wants just to relax, and see, for example, a TV.
To tell the truth, in this state, it is profound to him what a new wife bought or what happened to her best friend. And even if the sense of tact and good manners do not allow him to immediately stop his wife from talking, the answers are inadvertently or excessive nodding will make it clear that he thinks completely long away. Often, this behavior is interpreted in a different way by a woman: she begins to feel that the callousness and inattention from her husband is nothing more than a proof of his dislike. And now the occasion for another quarrel has ripened, which, repeating itself with an enviable regularity, can at all cause a break ...
So what do you do?
Reconcile with this situation or try unobtrusively to change it? Every woman decides for herself.
Climb into his skin
Try to imagine yourself in his place, that is, in the place of a man who is almost always in a stressful condition due to the weight of obligations that hang on him every day. He must give all 100 to work, take care of the welfare of the family and even do so many things that are united by the keyword "must". Therefore, the wife, trying to involve her husband in solving the small personal problems with which she is able to cope herself, risks becoming a husband with something identical with work.
Various information - your ears
For talking about boutiques, fitness centers and a broken nail, there are other "grateful" listeners, for example, friends or mother.
Husband once again admit to infinite love, tell him how you miss when he is not around and how you appreciate all that he does for the good of your family. If the talks about his work do not cause an inadequate reaction, one can wonder how his day went, what he is currently working on.
Another unbeatable option is to talk about what is interesting for him, for example, about football or about a new model of his favorite car brand (of course, in that case it is better to be at least a little knowledgeable in these subjects, so as not to look like a complete profane and be at least a little competent interlocutor).
In fact, you are sure that it is this man who is your half, and you will live together to a very old age, so you should not take him with a small niggard and take offense without reason. Stop looking at the life through rose-colored glasses. Life - this is not Hollywood movies, sodetermine what you really want to see your family.
Create a house in which you want to return
That in your family nest was always a welcoming atmosphere, you need to take care of some of its unconditional components:
- make your home cozy;
- meet the husband from work with an invariable smile on his face;
- appreciate the moments spent together, and make it so that the loved one understands what this means to you;
- create your own "bank of positive emotions", which will include pictures taken during the joint rest, lovely trinkets-souvenirs brought from travels, and from time to time relive these moments together again and be charged with positive;
- do not be afraid to call your husband openly and ask him about what he likes and what does not;
- Make a rule every day for 10-15 minutes to discuss important for both of you things;
- stay always interesting to your husband, find yourself an occupation that will constantly keep you toned and contribute to your development. Believe me, when you have a business for the soul, there will be almost no time for unnecessary grievances and "getting" your husband;
- think that this one (almost perfect, but how else, does not drink, does not beat, does not walk, earns money to provide for the family and children), the man chose you, not someone else. Therefore, it is worthy of your love and adoration, gratitude and respect.
And understanding the principles of the existence of a harmonious family will help your union to be strong and unshakable, despite all life's obstacles.