We, women, often emphasize our attention not on what life has already given to us, but for some reason on what we do not have and instead of learning to thank our lives for everything that we have, and this is the only way, which leads to happiness. It's only worth losing what we take for granted (love, loved ones, health, friends) and we immediately begin to appreciate it as a great happiness. However, while all this we have - it is difficult to resist not to start to take offense at every little detail on their relatives, to blame everyone for our problems. And this concentration on the shortcomings of relatives is gradually becoming a habit.
How to learn to marry with your husband
The objects of constant women's complaints, as well as resentment in most cases are husbands. But why are women much more willing to complain about their husbands than, on the contrary, keep silent about their shortcomings, and emphasize only their dignity? Often the reason lies precisely in the parents' family, when from the very childhood a similar attitude is observed by the mother to the father, for example, "You messed up my life! ", etc. This habitual behavior of an adult woman can broadcast to her family. And happiness is also a habit when a person can only find good around himself and enjoy it. In this sense, every person can become happy.
Women's happiness depends on how well a woman can notice his man's strengths (even to the smallest detail), and also learn how to evaluate it for it. Of course, if your husband changes you, drinks or engages in assault, then such a phrase as "women's happiness" loses its meaning from the very beginning. It's about those families where the couple really understand the importance of their marriage, but no more happy in marriage can be from for the elementary lack of non-specific skills and knowledge - in fact nigden is taught how to build a strong family.
Meanwhile, this is a whole science, which requires a huge tact of patience - first of all, as a rule, from a woman. For example, you gave your husband a list of products, and he returned from the store with only one bread with the words "there was food that you asked for." You can immediately criticize the nines and his ashes, but you can do and "move the horse." For example, to depict the joy on his face because the husband did go to the store and express the hope that he will continue to rejoice. You can unobtrusively find out why this store did not have the necessary products (maybe they were expired), which in this case can be done - which stores (or markets) near where the products are cheaper, etc. You, using the convenient moment when the husband will run next time for shopping-take time for yourself (take a relaxing bath or do a manicure), so your man will be much more willing to fulfill your requests, because at home a beautiful and loving wife. And you can not exclude that later it turns out that your husband is a natural born breadwinner, able to save, and perhaps even excellent to cook!
Perhaps your man does not know how to repair an old wardrobe, but he will try to earn money to buy a new, more modern wardrobe. Will try to do it for you! Perhaps, without enthusiasm, he nails, but he respects his colleague at work, because he is an excellent organizer and a decent man. Remember, in fact, it is for this and you fell in love with it once: sincerity, for honesty, kindness, care, etc. But after all, our life consists of small things, so it is important to learn to notice just the nice little things. You just need to learn to look at your loved one with new eyes - as before, when you just met: with surprise, with admiration, with delight - so everything is new and interesting for you. After all, when someone admires us, it is very stimulating to fruitful activity!
Many women try to find in her husband only flaws, for example, a big belly, freckles, a bad conversation, etc., but try to love these shortcomings, because you also have a lot of them, be more gentle. In this case, you will certainly admire your husband.