How to maintain a good relationship in the family? It's no secret that it's very difficult to do this. Today we will try to find solutions to this problem.
When we meet a person and we like him, we subconsciously become better, and sometimes consciously. It's not a secret for anyone. First of all, we want to stand out from the general mass, what would this person have noticed us. And now he pays attention to us, we are happy as children. Our eyes shine, and the smile does not come off the face. Thanks to this, we have hope and faith - this is the same person with whom we are ready to build long-lasting and productive relationships.
We want to show ourselves from the best side. After all, we have the task of enchanting. Pay attention to what we are caring, gentle, open, attentive, empathic and supportive. We try to create a certain aura of sensations, that only with us the beloved will be happy.
And we succeed. Mutually concealing the shortcomings, we sink almost into the ideal world of coexistence with each other.
There comes a time when we understand that a friend without a friend can no longer live. There is only one desire - to fall asleep together and wake up in the morning from the smell of coffee. It hurts us to leave even for a day. There is no "I", there is a common "we". This unity of souls, bodies, the mystery of love, into which we sink, leads us to the further development of events. To the creation of a family.
And here it is, the long-awaited happiness, the joy of being. We so diligently went to it. They did it. We made maximum efforts. Now always near. Now our wishes have come true. It is time to jointly hold not only leisure, but also life. As a rule, at this stage we forget that at the beginning of our acquaintance, we tried to give ourselves out in a better light and at some moments we were unaccustomed to ourselves, deciding that now is not the time to show our character. To avoid conflict, we can still maintain the image that we created. Some people manage to do this for a long time, but the moment when the true essence of a person manifests itself still comes. That's when the first difficulties arise. And the other half looks at us with different eyes. Begin to grow weeds of misunderstanding and distance. Initially, this is almost imperceptible in the form of small disagreements and quarrels, yet leading quickly to reconciliation. But if you let it go with the flow, you can come to a dead end, from which it is not possible to find a way out. And the consequence of this is the collapse of the union. The question arises - how to maintain a relationship, become more tolerant of cons and shortcomings. For quite recently we were madly in love with this person. He seemed to us the most, the most.
The main thing and the main thing is to be as sincere as possible at the first stage of the relationship. To speak not only about their positive qualities, but also not to forget about the disadvantages. This, of course, does not mean that on the first date we have to demonstrate to the elect a list of those minuses and shortcomings that we have. But we must remember that there are no ideals and sometimes remind the companion of this. Any relationship involves trust. Therefore, you need to learn to find out the relationship in a game form. Arrange evenings of claims and make joint lists of compromises. But to such things let's be approached delicately. Do not forget that this is a game. And do not cross it. Remember that before you is a loved one, and not a collection of all possible and impossible negative traits. Such clarification of relations must necessarily be ended on a positive note. After the stated claims it is worthwhile to voice the qualities and dignities that we value in the chosen one. To prolong the relationship, it is very important to treat each other more tolerant. People are not ideal, so why demand more than a close person can give us? It is necessary to make a decision for ourselves - are we ready to put up with the shortcomings or not. If they are not ready, then it will be very difficult for us to keep the family. Almost impossible. If we decide to take them, then we must take it. Not to reproach, but to seek compromises. It remains to add a very important thing. It is necessary not only to listen to a loved one, but also to hear. Understand what he is trying to tell us. Go to meet him to achieve mutual understanding. We always catch it clearly when we are not heard. It only brings negative emotions. So when they say something to us, let's hear and actively support the conversation, rather than nod indifferently, doing our own business.
And something else, for thought. It's hard to find your love. It is difficult, as practice shows, to preserve it. Adding a drop of healthy selfishness, let's fight for what is given to us by fate. To value relationships and create love is how to maintain good relations in the family.