Consider or not consider a single woman in 45 years, who has a man, but no children?
A woman who deliberately did not want to have children fifty or even twenty years ago turned almost into an outcast. And, the truth, more recently pressure of associates compelled many of women, doubting of the ability to motherly feelings to turn to unhappy mothers involuntarily.
In our time, this pressure has not completely disappeared, but is gradually coming to naught. Motherhood is beginning to look like the choice of every woman, not her sacred duty. The small number of women who decide to be childless no longer face universal condemnation as before and in most cases can even rely on help. The negative word "childless" is gradually replaced by "free from children". This definition is more accurate than how women relate to the lifestyle that they chose for themselves.
How do women themselves solve the problem of female loneliness in adulthood?
Psychologists who interviewed women who live without children found that many of them are good at children and love them, but they appreciate the other aspects of life mostly their own careers or communication with friends and friends. These parties play an important role in their lives. Such women basically value equitable relationships and are afraid that with the advent of children this will come to an end. They also value their own freedom, and that way of life that will allow them to make quick decisions, the opportunity to engage in creativity. They believe that they could not succeed in another area of life. In particular, other surveys have shown that women who do not have children are often well educated and show a great interest in their work. They also achieve great success in it and believe that motherhood would not give them such satisfaction. Many women believe that a career is not compatible with children, that even with equitable marriage, children will remain a women's responsibility.
Check - whether the location to female loneliness in your subconscious is laid.
A specialist psychologist will assist you in making a deliberate decision. In particular, if you suffer from unresolved conflicts, and also do not sufficiently imagine what maternity is. A part of women has a completely wrong idea that the process of upbringing and caring implies the return of everything and the receipt of nothing in return. Another part is afraid of the process of childbirth. Among them there are those who in childhood had to take care of younger sisters with their brothers, or of sick relatives, and now they think that they will be enough. It is very unfortunate if you decide not to have a child you accept under the influence of some old mental trauma. In the case when you are not aware of this reason, it can break you, if not the whole, then a significant part of life. Little girls forced to take care of someone were deprived of childhood, now they have grown up, they can deprive themselves of becoming mothers. To deal with the problems of this kind will help you a course of treatment. Even if you do not change your decision, it will be more balanced and conscious.
Suffer with a decision up to thirty years
Sterilization should be postponed to thirty years, so that if you suddenly want to have a child do not bite your elbows. It's not uncommon that the decisions made when you are about twenty years later start to seem wrong to you. Agree, it will be very difficult for you not to seem at least to yourself the most "white crow" in the circle of women who have children, and some do not have one. And this is not only school friends, but also colleagues at work, and just a circle of your communication. In itself, this sensation can be compared to a situation where everyone is around in a marriage, and you are alone as a finger. And let you so much better and more comfortable to live, but still we feel discomfort when we start to stand out from the pack.