But your family and professional life has changed. It's one thing when you return from work after meeting with your loved one, the other when your husband is your colleague.
In fact, it does not matter how the spouses ended up together in the same job - is it the result of a service romance, a family business, or some other way. This phenomenon has certain pros and cons.
Pros - they are much less:
- Organizational side for planning family affairs. For example, it is easier to get home together and work, eat lunch, plan purchases, organize children's upbringing, organize households, etc.
- Disputes as to whether it is good or bad, if spouses have one profession, are more likely to be resolved positively. It's rather good. When passion ends, you need to say something. In particular, you can discuss the work, the case, on which you work. Working together makes it possible to communicate on understandable topics. In general, the community of interests strengthens the family.
Cons - they derive, in particular, from the pros:
- We in everyday life very often do not share a social role. That is, we are dragging our working problems home, and domestic workers are at work. As a consequence, the head continues to manage the house, the teacher - to teach at home. If the couple works together, this border is generally erased, no, at least the ritual moment of transformation from an employee to a family man. This fact is aggravated by the fact that the family role does not coincide with the position at work. For example, the house is run by a woman, and at work she is subordinated to her husband and vice versa. It turns out such confusion, from which it is difficult to get out.
- Spouses see each other in fact around the clock. Naturally, they get tired of each other.
- In addition to several family functions, one very important function - psychotherapeutic - can not be realized. In particular, the husband or wife, when returning home, can not share the work dislocation, consult, receive support, comfort, approval or criticism.
- If you have to work with people at work, you often need to contact directly - to smile, joke, flirt. You know that, apart from professional function, it does not mean anything, but in the presence of spouses this can be perceived as somewhat more. After all, no one has canceled jealousy.
- It's worse if the husband and wife are subordinate to each other. The conduct of the superior and the subordinate can dictate the distribution of roles in the family. For example, a subordinate from a spouse may not do something, hoping for indulgence, but in reality there are none. And it's traumatic. On the other hand, if indulgences exist, then the resistance of the collective arises, he perceives the person not as an equivalent worker and professional, but simply the wife of the boss.
- It is better, when the spouses are on the same stage of professional growth. When there is competition, in a healthy competition there is nothing wrong. But not everyone is ready to compete with the person from whom you expect love, support.
Recommendations for couples who work together.
- It is desirable to develop the ability to disconnect from work during non-working hours. It is given, as a rule, with experience and for many - with great difficulties.
- At work, cross as little as possible. If you have to work on joint projects, then you need to learn to give in, seek a compromise, because, most likely, there will be controversy.
- It is better to spend a vacation together. Because in this way the spouses can actually break away from work and remember that they, first of all, the family. But the evening, the weekend should be held separately, have their hobbies, friends. This will give an opportunity to relax from each other.
- There are always exceptions, there are married couples who quite successfully work together on the same job and feel very well. - Probably, such couples simply do not imagine themselves without each other.
If there is no way to avoid acute angles, and the minuses of teamwork become big problems for the family, one of the spouses needs to look for another job. In the case when you have to work together and change the job there is no possibility, you should consult a psychologist. And step by step learn to adapt to the situation.