1. More or less accurately pull away. If you understand that you can not help your neighbor, just get involved in an unpleasant situation. However, while still feeling uncomfortable.
2. In order not to do harm completely, neither he nor himself should rush headlong into salvation, like jumping into the water at the cry of a sinking person, without thinking whether they themselves know how to swim. It is possible that a miraculous power will take you both, but it may happen that you will both be drowned.
3. Think about how you can make it easier for the sufferer. Explain to him that you are not a magician, but only learn - and do not promise to save him, but express your vision of the problem - perhaps, help. And spend a psychotherapeutic session with him. Amateur, of course, from the word love. After all, someone who you dislike is not likely to be able to bring real benefits.
Workshop of the beginning fairy. Comforting a person is not so difficult. For this you need: Attentively and sensitively listen to it. To talk out, cry out to someone who inspires confidence - this alone is already bringing relief. "Patient" can, in the course of his narrative, himself come to an understanding of what he needs. Let the sufferer know that he is not alone in this world. Give examples of how this happened to your friends, or even better - how you once coped with a similar problem yourself. "Sad Pierrot" usually plunges into the intolerability of the current moment: it seems that life in general failed and nothing ahead shines. To help his neighbor, it is worth reminding him of past fortunes - "I could then, do not forget! And then everything will turn out, this is just not the most successful band. " Finally, concentrate not on suffering, but on specific points of the "program to overcome the crisis." Real actions are sobering. If the interlocutor has an order with a sense of humor, you can arrange him "laughter".
To help find a funny side in the situation, to bring it "winding up" to the point of absurdity. After all, a person who can laugh at their difficulties, already begins to overcome them.
Healer, healed himself. In order not to harm completely and to yourself, direct some of your useful psychoanalysis to yourself. Why do you usually want to help others? From self-assertion: to feel good is very pleasant; helping people, you will raise your own self-esteem.
To calm down: when the best, and next to someone bad and heavy, you feel uncomfortable. From the feeling of gratitude: many having got rid of some problem, devote themselves to helping the brethren in the former misfortune. From the desire to share experience: you know something - and it is necessary for someone else. It remains to realize yourself and increase the amount of good in the world. To help your neighbor effectively, do not treat his sorrows with patience: they say, all your difficulties are stupid. Do not rush with hasty conclusions and advice. "I'll destroy someone else's troubles with my hands" is not a particularly effective principle.