Children scared a lot of things. Moreover, often such, about which adults do not even guess. In no case should children's fears be neglected, they should be minimized. After all, under certain circumstances, they can develop into real phobias. Help your child cope with himself! Psychologists identified 10 major childhood fears that cause inconvenience not only to children themselves, but to their parents. Knowing them, you can correctly behave in this or that situation. And this is already a lot.
1. Moving.
The change of place of residence, of their familiar home, and perhaps of their friends - all this causes great concern to children of any age. Moving is difficult even for an adult, what can we say about the child. Are you moving? Ask your children what they think about it. The main thing is not to ignore this problem. It is impossible to guess what "boils" inside the child during this period. After all, children can worry about something like the color of the walls in their bedroom, to which they are so used. Help them to cope with this. After all, in the end, the color of the walls is easy to change. And fear, no matter how it happened! Talk about the benefits of future housing. For example, a new house is located next to the park. Or near the house a huge playground. You know better than to carry away your child.
2. News on TV.
You will not believe it, but this is a real problem for so many children. Better not let the children watch the news at all, although it's hard to forbid them to listen to them. The children are curious. Many things attract them, although they terribly frighten. For example, children are horrified when they hear about the loss or killing of people, the attack of rabid dogs, sharks, bears, as well as all sorts of natural disasters. But without this, there is not one news release! If there is still no way to protect children from this completely - let them share their emotions and problems, but convince them that such events are incredibly rare. And it will be a weighty consolation.
3. Something will happen to you.
Children often worry about you, even when you leave the house for a short time. They are afraid of traffic accidents in which you can suffer, attacks on you by robbers, dogs or anyone else. Tell your child where you are going, and at what time are you going to return. And watch the time, if you promised to be then and then. Believe me, this is serious! Children really are afraid of losing you, sometimes this fear completely takes possession of them. Usually, with age it passes. The main thing is do not ridicule the child and do not scold for this "super-care"! It's in your best interest.
4. Parents quarrel.
Most children feel guilty about this. It's useless to say: "You have nothing to do with it," this is incomprehensible to the child. Just try to explain that all moms and dads sometimes argue about something, but that does not mean that they do not like each other. And it would be quite good to apologize to each other so that the child sees it. In general, it would not hurt to avoid quarrels and abuse in front of children. Although the tension of the relationship the child is able to feel and at the level of emotions. In these children it is impossible to deceive.
5. Monsters and darkness.
This, of course, is the main thing that children are afraid of. Try to explain to them that darkness is useful, because it helps you to rest and fall asleep. Sometimes they are worried about the fact that you need to return from somewhere in the dark (for example, from the second shift). Be sure to check this. With some effort, you can convince the children very quickly. The main thing is not to shame your children, do not humiliate them with words: "Oh, such a big guy, and you're afraid of darkness!" As for monsters, just look with the child under the bed to make sure that there really is no one there. Try to explain as convincingly as possible to your child that all these monsters and monsters are just a myth. Just a fairy tale that they do not exist. Another important point: the temperature in the room. It should not be too hot. Often we do not think about it, but in vain. The child's room should be periodically ventilated, and excessively high temperatures can provoke nightmares.
6. Death.
Tell the children that they have a very long, happy life ahead of them, and they should not worry about death while they are young. Obviously, you can not anticipate their reaction in advance, but try to give them information that corresponds to their age. Do not "strain" the children with the laws of life and death, do not rant on the topic "nothing lasts forever." Wait until they grow up.
7. Dogs.
Most often, the fear of dogs is not groundless. Maybe the child was scared of the dog in the park once long ago. You immediately forgot about it, and the child - no. Or, perhaps, you are trembling and nervous when passing a dog, and the children simply "copied" your anxieties. The best solution is to find a friend with a small, well-bred dog. Gradually the child will get used to it. In fact, children are always easy to contact animals. Over time, he will understand that not all dogs are the same. Each has its own character and its own "cockroaches in the head." The next step is to get the dog by yourself. Believe me, fear will be finished forever.
8. Intimidation from peers.
Many children are worried about hooligans in the school. Take for the habit of talking to the child about everything in the world, then they are more likely to trust you when things go wrong at school. In all schools there is a problem of hooliganism. Do not ignore it! Keep in touch with teachers, with the parents of other children, to be aware of all school events.
9. Quarrel with friends.
This question usually worries older children. And he really cares about it seriously. Listen to what they say and ask a few cautious questions. How much does it hurt your child? What was the essence of the quarrel? How can you help in this situation? Usually, children cope with such problems themselves, but sometimes you are able to help them in building relationships. The main thing is, explain to them that such things happen in life. That any friendship requires a break, a rethinking, a certain "time-out". Let them know that you are mentally with them at this moment. This should help.
10. Trekking to the dentist.
This fear "sin" not only children, but also most adults. This issue is especially troubling when there was already a bad experience. It's pretty hard to convince a child not to worry, when he knows that it will hurt. What can I say? Just let the child understand that you are there, that you understand him, and that he behaves very boldly. Surprise the courage of the child, even when he is ready to burst into tears for fear. Encourage him in every possible way. Do not humiliate the phrase: "Panty! Yes, I am at your age ... "Believe me, this is really serious.
This, of course, is not all the fears that occur in children. There are many more. But, knowing this, you will be able to compose an algorithm of actions to combat data and many other fears. The main thing is do not run it. Do not let the usual childish fears develop into phobias and other abnormalities of the psyche. After all, then dealing with them will be much more difficult. Do not miss the moment. It is in your power. Remember this and always be near your children. They will appreciate your participation. Even if much later.