How to find a soul mate? There are no specific recommendations, so everyone acts differently. Some grow together, learn, make friends, and then unite and create a family. Others quietly wait while sitting at home and do not make any effort. Still others seek a partner for a greater or lesser part of conscious life. Sometimes they find quickly, sometimes they change partners, like gloves. Love can "accidentally come on when you do not expect it at all" and last a lifetime ... Or can not stand the test of time.
And still in this article I'll try to tell you how to quickly find a soul mate. And the main advice is not to "wait for the weather at the sea", but to make efforts, strive to get acquainted, to interest and to keep a person.
Where to meet?
Yes, anywhere. In public transport, where you can meet an occasional fellow traveler; at a lecture or at work, where you know a lot about your colleagues; on trainings, seminars, presentations, exhibitions on the subject you are interested in, where you can meet like-minded people, or at least a person with similar interests; at music festivals, concerts, which are usually visited by many girls and young people; on vacation - during excursions, on the beach, a disco, in a restaurant, a sauna. You can get acquainted in parks, squares, on a staircase or in traffic jam, on the Internet, in the sports section ... There are no specific places for dating, it all depends on situations, from the person himself. Sometimes dating happens spontaneously: "I looked back to see if she looked back to see if I had looked back." The main thing is not to stay at home.
How to interest?
Most often in the initiative, the initiative belongs to a man. The purpose of it - to find an excuse for dating. Advice to men.
Advice to men.
1. Take the initiative and do not be afraid to "get bummer." Do not cover your fear of meeting other reasons, but fight with it. Throughout life, learn to suppress your fear and insecurity in something. And the girls will appreciate it.
2. A girl is also a person. And she wants to communicate, be friends. Therefore, tune in to the "friendly wave", talk, how to communicate with a boy who is not familiar to him. Always respect the girl's personality. Then she will respect and love you, reach out to you.
3. Goggles will not hurt. Do not talk about yourself all at once. Keep silent about something, promise to tell another time. You can tell about the type of occupation, interests, the status of personal freedom. At the same time, brag about less and do not lie in the main thing, that girls do not like it either.
4.Flowers as a token of attention. It is unlikely that any of the women will refuse to accept them. And if the girl has accepted the gift, it will be difficult for her to not respond to your desire to get acquainted.
5. "Women love with ears." Therefore, more often refer to her by name, do not skimp on compliments, joke, if it's appropriate. All this causes reciprocal sympathy and disposes.
6. A girl can be annoyed or worried. Therefore, it is not easy to stop trying to get acquainted, but also to be rude. Do not respond rudeness to rudeness - skip past the ears. Thus, you will not instead of dating "find out the relationship", and the girl then does not retell that you were rude first. Treat this with humor. It is better to smile in response, apologize, you can sarcastically, or say something like: "what you are, what you", "yes-ah-ah" ... This is much more effective.
7. Do not lie to the girl. Perhaps she will not give in to the mind, but she will understand everything, take it to herself, stop trusting, and it will be more difficult for you to start a serious relationship.
8. Get your way and be persistent. Girls appreciate it. But do not be intrusive, boring and annoying. Girls can not stand monotony.
But you met and invited the girl on a date or were alone with her and you want to start a conversation. How to proceed? Do not immediately bother with questions about your personal life. Start with common themes. To begin with, think that you know about this girl, what she likes, what she is addicted to, and ask her about it. You can discuss common acquaintances, study, work. Or go over the popular ones: music, cinema, literature, philosophical questions, clubs, restaurants, favorite and unloved places in the city, etc. The main thing: do not turn the conversation into an interrogation. Tell us something about yourself, your interests, and then find out the girl's attitude toward such things. Listen carefully and delve into what you are told. Focus on the situation and show imagination. If the topic of the conversation is exhausted - smoothly change to another. Do not discuss the issues that are of fundamental importance to you - this can be done when you get to know each other and will understand each other better.
As the woman gives the initiative to the man, the task before her is to turn his attention to himself.
Advice to the girls.
1. Often go to places where you can meet a man.
2. Try to enter into his view of the man, to attract his attention. To do this, bet on coquetry and sex appeal. Make it clear that you are safely acquainted with, and you will not send it, far away. Walk past him so that he smells your scent, straighten your hair, looking into his eyes, smile a little. Brazenly bend over looking that you dropped something.
3. Enter the "personal zone" of the man, that is, approach the safe distance for him, which begins to feel the interlocutor - about half a meter. In your hand, you can have some thing, for example, a magazine, in order for it to have a topic for conversation.
4.If and after that he does not show activity, take the initiative and talk first. Say something neutral, for example, that his face seems familiar to you. You can ask which hour, find out how to find the address, ask for advice. The main thing is to start a conversation. Let the conversation lead a man, and you support it, skillfully directing the course of questions so that communication is not interrupted. In general, trust your intuition. Perhaps a young man will not play by your rules, so be braver. If you fail on acquaintance, you will not lose anything.
How to keep?
Interested in how quickly find a soul mate create in their imagination an ideal that the "second half" should match. Of course, a girl can not meet a "beautiful prince", and a young man "a star from the sky." But in order to keep the chosen one or the chosen one, it is necessary that he sees in you the ideal he aspired to. Traditionally, a man is perceived as a defender and a reliable support, a woman as a good mother. Hence, important positive traits are taken for the ideal. For a man, this is attentiveness, courtesy, tenderness, devotion and a sense of humor. For a woman - femininity, loyalty, gullibility, cheerfulness, insecurity, pliability, softness, tenderness, the ability to understand, console, be attentive to others. Strive to find a "common language" with your mate, try to find compromises, however difficult it may be.
In conclusion, I advise you not to subordinate your entire life to finding the ideal elect or chosen one, but simply to love yourself, to change outwardly and inwardly. Sign up for a dance, a swimming pool, a fitness club, and other physical activities. Find yourself an interesting case. Change the image or style in clothes. And generally more positive. And people will reach out to you. You can quickly find a person who has common interests with you, moral attitudes, views on certain things. Perhaps you will love each other, and he will become a "second half." Dare! The main thing - to want!