The husband left. How to return it?

Sometimes it happens that a married woman can not appreciate what her husband does for the family. The number of conflicts is growing and the lady decides to expose the man behind the door. But what to do if the decision was hasty and the beloved wants to return?


Recommendations on the case

If you are in such a delicate situation, do not hurry. Do you want to return your lover? In this case, stop, try to maximally understand the situation, understand what is your mistake, and try to come up with a way out of the situation.

Remember that all your actions should be meaningful. In the opposite case, the probability of a positive outcome is practically zero.

But how to be in this particular situation? Here you will have to honestly talk with yourself to understand what you have invested in the fact that the husband is not with you now. In the end, it's you who asked him to leave!

Please note that self-incriminations will not lead to anything good-you will only go deeper into your problem, rather than constructively and judiciously understand what exactly depended on you. As you can see, this approach allows you to find out who actually controls the situation and that the woman in this case is the main instigator of the conflict, the victim's situation is the worst choice.

To begin with, try to remember whether the husband was as bad as he seemed to you. It often happens that women themselves think out the situation and idolize it to the point of absurdity. The truth is, we often think that the husband has fallen out of love, gives insufficient attention, too rarely brings flowers? Please note that this is not about what really is, but about what only seems to us. And now think how many interesting things can "think out" the female fantasy.

As a result of such preconceived situations, we cease to perceive reality and begin to live with expectations. Practice shows that such an approach is dead-end.

Next, it is worth remembering what good was really done by your spouse when you were still together. A joint life by a common man significantly reduces the so-called threshold of sensitivity to his good deeds. In other words, if in the first year of married life a woman rejoiced at every look or gift of her beloved flower, then after 10 years of marriage it turns out that there is already too little a huge bouquet of roses.

In order to maintain themselves in the form and appreciate the positive qualities of a loved one, psychologists have come up with such a simple exercise: it is enough to write out daily to the notebook what the husband is good at leaving. Let's say that my husband washed his dishes-bring him a fat "plus," took a walk in the park with a child - earned another plus sign. If not to be lazy, after a couple of weeks you can see how your attitude towards her husband will change.

Another feature of the female psyche that interferes with constructive interaction with members of the opposite sex is the expectation that a man should guess what we want from him.

If you build a relationship in this way, it turns out that one vpare constantly needs something, and the second is forced to rush like a squirrel in a wheel to comply with these requirements. Agree that such a game in the owner, atotchne mistress and her slave will like only those who are willing to obey the law. Moreover, why should a husband constantly be responsible for what he did, and for those expectations that he did not justify? By building up the family, you must understand in advance that good relationships will not work, because in this case one always has to invest, while the other acts as a consumer, giving nothing to his partner in return.

For the same, that the husband is again close to you, it is necessary to try to return to the relationship the former trust, to make the spouse, whose not so long ago, they put their own hand on the threshold, their real friend. It is absolutely clear that it is not so easy to turn the situation in this way, but in order to lay the first bricks in the basement of the renewed strong relations, it is necessary:

Please note that these recommendations are given in a certain sequence. It would be nice if you clearly followed the point to point, and then the probability of returning the husband will increase significantly.