Causes
Most often a woman marries a man who is much younger than her, when she is not at all interested in the material side of the relationship. As a rule, such women were held in a career, provided with housing and stable earnings. Support in a young wife is not so important.
Another common cause is the intimate relationship. Women with an ardent temperament may not have enough attention of their peers, she wants something more, passionate nights, as in her youth. Not every forty-year-old man is capable of a sexual marathon, but a young man is quite. And this is understandable - after thirty years, women begin to peak in sexual activity, while in men it goes on recession, so young partners attract more peers, as they can satisfy all the requirements of a woman in bed.
And, finally, an important role is played by a sense of confidence and security. Usually this is expected from men, but an unequal marriage, where a man is younger, puts him on the position of a person who seeks protection rather than gives it. As a rule, adult women who do not need support, are able to patronize their beloved. This is due in part to the hypertrophied maternal instinct.
Ways to keep relationships
An unequal marriage in which a woman is older is subject to greater condemnation in society. The newlyweds have to be strong to overcome all obstacles and not to part.
Firstly, absolutely different requirements are put forward to the appearance of a woman. She must always be at a level to compete with younger girls. In unequal marriage, women often feel jealous, so they try to keep youth as long as possible, because appearance is of great importance, no matter how strong love may be.
Secondly, in no case can you put a partner on the position of the child, no matter how inexperienced he may be. Men and 20 years old feel the need to be a leader, so it is important to encourage leadership qualities, not infantilism. If a woman crushes a partner with her authority, in the literal sense of the word takes the reins of government into her own hands, sooner or later a man will find a less demanding lover.
Thirdly, do not relax. Weddings do not guarantee long life together, and unequal marriage has more chances to fall apart in the first three years of existence. The advantages of such relationships are in their stable feelings, absence of hysteria, accusations and suspicions. Do not be jealous of a partner just because he is younger and like 20-year-old girls who are ready to make a scandal for anything. Age imposes an obligation to be wiser.
And, finally, money and sex. If an adult woman reduces the whole meaning of marriage only to the fact that she does not skimp on the costs of a young husband, and in return only waits for sex, then a man will sooner or later become bored with being a toy. The quality of sex is very important, material well-being is also of great importance, but without trust, sincerity and understanding, no relationship will last long.
Unequal marriage makes many people happy, but it can also lead to unhappiness. People who decide to legitimize such a relationship, do not pay attention to the gossip that will necessarily arise. It is important to not allow even the thought that this is only up to the first serious problems. In fact, there are enough examples where an unequal marriage lasted longer than usual and was happy. People have children, build joint plans, strive for something, regardless of age. Where there is love and the desire to be together, there will be no reason for parting.