"But we have children!" - you object. Understand, children, no matter how small they are, understand perfectly what kind of relationship between parents. Psychologists believe that children are happier with one parent than in a family where father and mother have not loved each other for a long time. Constant listening to parental disputes does not have the best effect on children's fragile psyche.
"What am I going to do without him?" - this can only be asked by a domestic club, which completely dissolved in her husband. A self-sufficient woman will never come up with such a question. Well, if you, excuse me, without a husband nowhere, you will have to learn to live differently. The first time will be hard, but nothing, be stronger than circumstances and you will cope with all the difficulties.
Well, if after long meditations you still decided to return the love and respect of your husband, then you will have to think about why you lost these same love and respect. There are two options: either he has a mistress, or a middle-aged crisis.
Let's start with option number two. A crisis. About him already written a lot of different psychological books. If in a nutshell, it usually happens when she "the story of life" is already "written" (read "lived"), and the other does not even start to think. Perhaps just grown up children and the house was empty. Perhaps he retired and has nothing to occupy himself. In short, this existence has bothered him, but he does not know how to start a new one. Help him. Start to entertain him! Forget that you have already ... for twenty years. Imagine that you are young again, that life has just begun!
Take a vacation and go somewhere far away from home. It is best that it is not some kind of sea resort, but mountains, for example, or rafting along the river. The adrenaline should be released into the bloodstream. Overcome these difficulties together! It will shake not only the husband, but you, eyes will light up as in a youth. The husband will remember that he loves you very much, and will again begin to respect that you were not afraid of difficulties.
And you can not go anywhere. Difficulties can lie in wait for you at home: moving, repairing or (pah-pah) someone's illness. The main thing is to be together. Believe me, he will appreciate your efforts.
But if he started a mistress, everything is more complicated. Her husband does not even want a divorce, but she spends the night with her. You seem to be jealous, but you do not know what to do.
Then you need to work on yourself. First, stand in front of the mirror. Are you old? With all happens. When was the last time you were in a beauty salon? 2 years ago? Unforgivable! Immediately run there, and from there immediately to the shops, for new things.
So ... they brought beauty. And now think: your husband is interested in you? Maybe he loved you, but something has changed, there's nothing to talk with you about. Then quickly find a new occupation. It could be a job if you were just a housewife, or an amateur theater. Anything. Become an interesting beautiful lady. Be better than that young mistress. Let the husband understand that he loses. Let him know that he has lost his love and respect for nothing.
So, good luck to you, my dear, in this difficult matter of the return of love and respect for her husband. Love yourself and be loved.