A man with a child or children, and also divorced - is a taboo, a diagnosis or for simple words is it worth seeing the real lives of living people? Any woman, sometimes involuntarily, because of nature, analyzes a potential life partner. Can you trust your future, can you connect with him further life, is he suitable for partners physically and will he be able to understand and appreciate her inner world?
And a whole host of thoughts furrows the expanses of gray matter in 24 hours (yes, yes, certainly, and even in a dream!) In search of an answer to a simple but extremely important question - is he the same? Thousands and thousands of men daily walk through the streets of cities and villages, and each has its own story. On whom to pay attention, and who better to pass by without looking back - a very difficult issue.
Pros and cons of a divorced man
Such a man has both shortcomings and dignity. First, it is obvious that someone managed to "ring" it, which is very good. It is known that for most men, marriage is shocking, so making a beloved woman a proposal for many is akin to a heroic deed. Those who once decided, with a lighter heart will be ready to go to the registrar again.
Moreover, the divorced man plunged headlong into his family life and already has an idea of many everyday problems, and more importantly, the ways to solve them. He once realized the burden of responsibility, which imposes a life in marriage and now understands that in a joint life we are more important than I.
Commitments
The appearance in the family of a new life imposes additional obligations on the man. The need to provide a family financially becomes a priority, he must pay more attention to the mother of his child, and in the future, to the child himself. This in his own way tempers a man, gives him greater responsibility, and in general the transition from the status of a husband to a new husband-father is the determining factor in the formation of men as human beings. Therefore, the fact that after the divorce, regardless of its causes, the child stayed with his father, says that we have a fully formed personality. He is no longer afraid of paternity, he knows how and wants to get along with children, and this life experience is certainly positive.
Is the baby a hindrance?
There are, however, certain negative moments, the first of which will be, how cruelly it may sound, the presence of the child himself. After all, you will not only have to build a relationship with a man you like, but also with his child. Share happiness and give warmth to both of them. The lack of mutual sympathy between you and the child of your beloved man can become a serious problem, the solution of which is an incredibly difficult task.
Another undoubted disadvantage is the mother of the child, she is the ex-wife. Cases when a positive relationship is established between a new man's passion and his previous wife is extremely rare. Here, first of all, it will be necessary to find out what role in the life of the child is played by his mother, and what relations at present bind the man to his ex-wife. In addition, very often men like to compare the current and former beloved, and it is very preferable that the former meet a certain standard established in the best days of living together with the previous passion.
Summing up
In general, to predict whether there is a prospect for a relationship with a divorced man, who also has children, is like speculating on the coffee grounds. In fact, each specific situation should be considered taking into account many factors. For example, if the child is small, then with the right and loving upbringing, he is unlikely to ever perceive you except as a real mother, even if in the future he gets acquainted with the biological. If your other half turns out to be a true man, a decent and caring father, a quivering lover, and just a good person, then the previous marriage and having a child can not become a serious barrier to real happiness.
It seems that in such situations, statistics do not work, everything is strictly individual. Obviously, if you really love, then you just need to try to build relationships, despite the possible difficulties, because women's happiness is worth it.